#theo thinks

this is so cruel

Like at least I am a big believer of let your experiences and feelings inform how you approach life more than the labels you choose

I identify solely as a gay man but I let myself feel attraction to women sometimes because why the hell not. I’m not interested in women at all, but I don’t force myself to only think or feel a certain way because of how I view myself, I just let myself feel how I feel! And I feel gay as shit. 24/7

I don’t identify as aromantic in any way shape or form but I am also in what would technically be labeled as a qpr because we are both queer and we love each other platonically and that is a platonic, queer relationship. But I don’t label it in any capacity beyond rambles like this, and I feel very comfortable identifying solely as alloromantic. I can have long term committed non romantic relationships and still not identify as aromantic in any capacity because I don’t feel aromantic. Bada bing bada boom.

Idk man I guess I’m just saying that you deserve to feel things without interrogating them. Just… be. And if you like labels, go for it! But you can also have terms and labels for yourself without putting yourself in a box.

Every job can only take you so far. At a certain point, you have to stop somewhere. The point of a job is not for you to never settle into a position, the point of a job is for you to like where you end up settling.

Example: I tried to go to college to go to law school. Hated it. Dropped out. Being a lawyer is not where I wanted to settle. Now I work in dog daycare. Which, is much more likely to be called a “dead end job” than practicing law. But I love my job and working with dogs is what I want to spend my life doing, so dog daycare is a much better place for me to settle.