#teenproblems

Don’t feel sorry for yourself!

It takes so much practice, I know. This tip is along the wavelength of ‘laugh at your embarrassment’, but with a twist. 

Next Tip: Confront the situation instead of hiding.

Countless of times I try to hide in my own shame somewhere alone, away from people’s eyes. But sometimes the moment doesn’t allow for it, and then you’re stuck. So try to analyze what’s happening.

According to some science test, the best way to deal with an embarrassing moment is to use humor. So play those jokes and gestures like your life depends on it.

Next Tip: Apologize and then just let it go.

Depending on my mood I tend to either brush embarrassing moments briskly off like some sort of lawyer in a TV show or apologize a billion times for it. 

I and you should try to be a mix, a balance of both. Apologize and let it go. It turns out that apologizing all the time (even after the event occurred) makes you focus on the past and not the present. Crazy logical, right? Anyway, you don’t owe anything to any one of the people there (unless the event was REALLY bad), and neither to yourself, so pick yourself up!

Next Tip: Allow yourself to be flawed. 

Hey, I know what it’s like to beat yourself up about some little thing and make it into a big statement on how you’re a dumb-dumb human. 

Everyone gets embarrassed from time to time; what matters is how you deal with these situations. 

You’re stronger than you know.

Next Tip: Talk it out. 

With people, perhaps a friend or even one of your ‘witnesses’, or even just to the mirror. You just need to vocalize it instead of letting your mind dwell on it. 

Maybe your confidant will give the moment new perspective (which often happens to me!) or a positive twist to it.

And the final tip: Stop worrying what people think.

If you’re by yourself and you trip on something, you laugh at yourself. If you’re in public and you trip, you tend to look around to see if anybody just saw that. And god forbid if you tripped in front of your crush.

But hey, just act like you’re alone. Shake it off, laugh it off. Because people tend to be focusing on themselves more than you.

As humans, we greatly exaggerate our flaws. But to just not care and tell a joke about it does a whole great deal more than you realise. 

And guess what? If you’re embarrassed in front of people, then you obviously have something to lose. That means you have something with them in the first place, right? That’s a celebration in itself.

I hope you enjoyed this mini-essay! TLDR, embarrassing moments suck, but you’re stronger than you think, and as the age-old saying goes: just laugh it off.