I have noticed in many tarot readings that, the tarot readers write in two ways. There's kind of a duality here.
When the topic is about some affirmations or positive things, they write: 'Oh dear/sweetie, it's not your fault if so and so person ruined your life/harassed/bullied/troubled/let you down. You need a lot of healing. Please take care of yourself. Those people will receive the result for their bad karma.'
When the topic is about shadow work/negative aspects/things you need to work on, they write: 'You're responsible for your own life, don't blame on other people for your setbacks..blah blah blah..' I don't understand, what if these are the same people/audience who have been backstabbed/harassed/bullied or someone who had childhood trauma/violent parent..etc, in the past. They will obviously not want to hear this if they've started their healing journey(that..don't blame others and all that stuff). I'm telling this because even I'm one of these people, and it feels really bad when I've just started my healing journey. Just saying because it really hits where it's already hurting. So, don't take any offence, guys.
In my final year of graduation, I had a teacher(she taught business communication), she was very creative, very soft-spoken and the way she sometimes talked about her home life and education, her posts on social media, showed how supportive her parents must be. In one of her lectures, while going a bit off-topic, she was talking about how people should do their own thing no matter what. It was all good and encouraging until she said this sentence, 'You must be slapped if you blame others for ruining your life. Why did you let people decide for you, in the first place itself?' I felt very attacked. All kinds of questions and thoughts were crawling up my mind that day. I was thinking to myself, 'How can she say this?! What if that person was a child when bad things happened to him/her and he/she was not able to differentiate between right and wrong and could not decide for himself/herself? What if that person was in a really helpless situation? What ifs and more what ifs.. I really felt bad that day because it's not always a person's wrongdoings/bad decisions, sometimes bad things/bad people are thrown towards us, so that we learn from them and become a good person later on in life. It's also their contribution, that we learn the right things and that their presence was important but that doesn't mean, that their actions never hurt in the past. The struggle was real, this must be taken into consideration.
