When I was 16 I roamed a mental health platform called TalkLife. I remember being the most friendly person to a 'pro life' (pro forced birth) male, who was surely past his 30s. Despite him actively advocating against my bodily autonomy and rights as a becoming woman, I patiently tried to sway his mind with basic human empathy & biological facts about abortion and fetuses. Teenage me was too kind to people who were so deliberately anti woman.
Despite this gaping difference in values, I remained in contact with him for a short while and even talked to him in the DMs a few times where he told me some story about a woman he was deeply in love with. He called her his best friend.
He would always bring her up in his 'pro life' ramblings, telling me that she had gotten pregnant through rape and had chosen not to abort what would later become her first child. I cannot describe it exactly as it is so long ago but he would always mention her as this "strong woman" who apparently agreed with his 'pro life' stance and in a sense, (despite the usual illogical arguments conservatives often use in abortion debates) use her as his ultimate argument as to why even in extreme cases of sexual assault, women should not be granted the right to choose.
He would go on to tell me that this woman had since found another man she married; her now husband. According to our pro life guy, she was aware that he 'loved' her but rejected him. Or he never tried to get with her? I don't remember which. He seemed to be quite a depressed type of man that struggled with a lot of other things on the side (despite his obvious lack of care for women in general of course).
But he'd tell me about her kids, whom she had more of in the meantime with her new husband. And apparently he was made the godfather of them, expressing how he'd do 'anything' for these children.
It was a very curious experience as a 16 year old. This woman even was on the same app and I saw her around a couple times and she even commented positively under one of my rather feminist posts. She has since left the app. I'd never find him nor her ever again nor do I know their names but sometimes I think of the people I met on the internet.
(If anyone wonders how it ended... I expanded a lot on my feminist horizon during that time until I eventually released one post that was too much for him lol. Don't remember what the post was about but it was the most basic feminism, not yet radical feminism specific. He dramatically commented something about me having lost him completely and how he good in no good faith support me any longer etc. but by that time I didn't care anymore. And then I never saw him again.)










