Here’s some positivity for systeens, systweens, and system middles!
Often in spaces, content, and conversations surrounding system littles, older syskids tend to get left out of the discussion. But systeens/tweens, middles, and older littles are still syskids and they’re still important members of their system and the plural community! This post is for all the system middles!
If you’re a middle who enjoys toys, movies, games, and other things geared towards a younger audience or intended for kids younger than you, we want to remind you that it’s perfectly fine to enjoy these things! Liking stuff meant for younger kids doesn’t invalidate you or your age in any way - it isn’t “cringey,” weird, or creepy, and you’re allowed to enjoy things meant for younger kids without feeling any guilt or shame!
If you’re a middle who enjoys things with mature themes or geared more towards adults, we want to let you know that this is okay too! It’s perfectly fine to be curious about or enjoy things with suggestive or violent themes, to get excited about things other kids might find boring, or to do things that are normally just for adults! Enjoying things meant for adults doesn’t make you any less of a kid and it doesn’t make you a bad person! It’s okay to be yourself and just like the things you like!
For all you middles struggling to find yourself and figure out where you belong, we’re wishing you the very best on your journey! It’s okay to take a lot of time learning about yourself and trying to understand where you fit in the world and your system. It’s okay if sometimes you feel younger and more vulnerable while other times you feel older and stronger! We hope you can have fun experimenting with hobbies, activities, causes, aesthetics, and other things as you learn more about yourself!
For age sliders who are sometimes middles, yes, this post is for you too! You are allowed to exist just the way you are - there’s nothing wrong with only being a middle occasionally! You still count as a syskid as long as you’d like to call yourself that, and you will always be welcome in our spaces just the way you are! It’s okay if your wants and tastes fluctuates with your age. It’s okay if you sometimes feel nervous, confused, or like you don’t belong! However, we promise that you absolutely do belong, and you don’t have to change one bit in order to be accepted here!
Whether you’re a middle who wants to grow up, who wishes they were younger, or who is happy being the age they are, we want you to remember that you are cherished and loved, both by the rest of your system and the plural community as a whole! And we consider ourselves so lucky to be able to share this space with you. Please try to take it easy and treat yourself with kindness in the future. Know that we believe in you and we’re rooting for you! You have a bright future ahead of you and we’re wishing you the very best!
