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At least I'm straight

It is a phrase some people say casually, sometimes even jokingly, as if being straight automatically places someone on a higher moral ground. The phrase often appears in conversations where people are judging others’ sexuality, using it as a way to claim righteousness while condemning someone else. But when we stop and think about it, the statement raises an uncomfortable question: why do some people believe that being straight somehow makes them morally superior?

In many societies, people are willing to forgive a wide range of actions. Someone who steals may be told they can repent. Someone who struggles with addiction may be encouraged to seek redemption. Even people who have committed serious wrongs are often reminded that forgiveness is possible if they turn back to God. Redemption is one of the most central teachings of Christianity. The belief that people can change, repent, and be welcomed again is repeated throughout Christian teachings.

Yet when it comes to people who are gay—people who are simply born loving the same gender—many are treated differently. Instead of being met with compassion or understanding, they are often labeled as sinful or immoral. Some are told that their identity itself is wrong and that their punishment will be eternal damnation. This reaction creates a contradiction: if forgiveness and grace exist for many actions, why is love between two people sometimes treated as something beyond acceptance?

Part of the problem comes from how religious texts are sometimes used. Some people quote individual verses to justify condemning others while ignoring the broader message of love and humility found throughout the Bible. It becomes less about faith and more about proving someone else wrong. In these situations, scripture can be used as a weapon rather than a guide.

But when we look at the core teachings of Christianity, the message sounds very different. In John 13:34, Jesus gives a command that is both simple and powerful: “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” This command does not place conditions on who deserves love. It does not say to love only people who live exactly the same way you do. Instead, it calls believers to show the same compassion and grace that Jesus showed to others.

Another passage reminds believers to be cautious about judging others. In James 4:12, it says: “There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you—who are you to judge your neighbor?” This verse highlights something many people forget: judgment ultimately belongs to God. Humans are not given the authority to decide another person’s eternal fate.

These teachings challenge the mindset behind statements like “at least I’m straight.” When someone says this, they imply that being straight somehow erases other flaws or sins. But Christianity repeatedly teaches that all people are imperfect and that no one stands above others morally. Faith is meant to encourage humility, not superiority

For many LGBTQ+ individuals, hearing condemnation from religious communities can be deeply painful. They may grow up believing in God and wanting to live with faith, only to feel rejected for who they are. This experience can create a sense of conflict between identity and spirituality. Some walk away from religion entirely, while others search for ways to reconcile their faith with their identity.

However, there are also many people of faith who believe that Christianity should be a place of love rather than exclusion. They point out that Jesus repeatedly spent time with those society rejected: the poor, the marginalized, and those labeled as sinners. His actions showed that compassion mattered more than social labels.

When we return to the heart of the Gospel, we find a consistent message. It calls believers to practice love, humility, and empathy. It reminds people that judgment is not theirs to carry. And it challenges individuals to examine their own hearts before condemning someone else.

Perhaps the real issue is not about sexuality, but about how easily people use religion to justify judgment. When faith becomes a tool for labeling others, it moves away from its original purpose. Instead of bringing people together, it creates division and pain.

The Bible repeatedly reminds believers of what matters most: love, compassion, and humility. If people truly followed these teachings, conversations about identity and difference would look very different. Instead of asking who is worthy of acceptance, people would focus on how to treat each other with dignity.

In the end, the message is simple but powerful. The Bible calls people to love, not to label. And when that message is truly understood, statements like “at least I’m straight” lose the power they once held. Instead of measuring worth through identity, faith becomes what it was always meant to be—a call to love others as we wish to be loved.

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