#starshine talks

“you’re gonna look ugly as a man” “but you’re such a pretty girl, don’t change that” Wrong. You will look different after T, but you will look happy. You will probably grow hair and gain weight and look pretty different, and none of that is bad or makes you less desirable. You are going to look like you and that’s all that matters.

“T makes you angry” “you’re gonna be a scary man i won’t feel safe around you” Wrong. Testosterone does not “make” you angry. Messing with your hormones will mess with your emotions for sure, but you will not immediately become some scary predator when you start T. Being a man/masculine does not make you a threat, a predator, or inherently angry. That’s radfem shit.

“bottom growth is gross” “no one will want you with bottom growth” Wrong. Bottom growth is cool and a LOT of guys end up loving theirs a lot more than they thought they would. For a lot of people it is a desirable trait, there are people who find bottom growth hot and attractive. And! If you’re sure you don’t want it there’s things you can do to work around that, just talk to your provider.

“bottom surgery is super painful and not worth it” First off, call it phalloplasty, because that’s what you’re talking about. Second, yes it’s painful, it’s surgery. There are risks to it and complications can happen, but that’s true of any surgery. Phallo might not be for you, but it is life saving care for other folks. It is beautiful and should be talked about as life saving care and not as some afterthought thing that no one actually does.

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HI HI!!! I'm so sorry. I saw this forever ago and like words cannot describe how much this made me smile seeing this in my inbox. Ajshdvsv is this suppose to be a silly but uplifting thing you send to blogs and mutuals you enjoy? Sure.

Am I gonna use this as an excuse to go on a mini positive rant about Sweets? Absolutely (by the way if I'm out of the loop and you don't want people calling you Sweets please let me know I'll change the post immediately)

[image id: a screenshot of a Tumblr ask from an anonymous user asking "opinion on trans men???" the op, elvis-official, replies saying "wouldn't hurt them to shut up sometimes." end id]

Image ID by: @/intersexvitrealis

Grows up as a woman being told to “shut up and sit down” all the time. Transition. Is still told to “shut up and sit down”. Get upset that you’re still facing misogyny even from members of your supposed community. Get told you’re transmisogynist, by the person who was being misogynist.

I have no idea where the metal in my leg is from. Or where all of the surgical instruments or medications i’ve taken are from.

I can guarantee the knee brace I rely on, my cane, my (future) wheelchair, etc aren’t made in the best ways either.

I use single-use things. KT tape for my joints, individually packaged things, etc. I would love to use something more sustainable but that’s not an option for me.

Calling trans men in their 50s “boys” is highly infantilizing wtf. Trans men are an important part of this community and we always have been. You are transphobic, seek help.