#spreadkindness

What if the reality we believe in is the one we’ll create? It’s said that the more we think and work toward a goal, the more we repeat our “truth,” whether it’s good or bad, until it becomes our reality. We are writing our own lives, day by day. Over the past year, it seems like there has been an increase in trauma, bad actions, and bad people thrown in our faces. At 46, my perspective is…

I'm sure we've all heard the phrase, "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me". Little kids learn it to counteract mean words said at playtime. It seems logical, physical harm should hurt more than words, but I think we all know from experience, that's just not true.

I didn't want to address this. I learned years ago in this fandom that if you address drama or anons it never ends well. However, I feel like this has to be said not necessarily for me, but maybe for younger me who wasn't as strong.

I received an anon that told me to kill myself because they didn't like a fic I wrote (I guess). I deleted the message because it's not worth my time. But those words are so hurtful. I thought back to younger me. Middle school me. High school me. Even early college me... I don't think that version of me would be strong enough to delete that message.

That version of me would hold onto it, perseverate on it, and those words would swirl in my mind and the anxiety and depression would tell me that's what people think. That's what you should do. I know logically that's stupid and it's an anon, delete and move on. But mentally, I wasn't strong enough...

I know that version of me is not alone. I know there are people in this fandom who struggle daily with their mental health. I know how hard it is for them. I can't imagine one of them getting a message like that.

Using language that promotes harm, like telling someone to "kill yourself," is harmful in so many ways. Whether you actually mean it and think that person should die, or you think it's just a phrase you say when you're angry, bored, or wanting to start drama, it's not okay. I'd love to say choose kindness and don't send any hate but I know that's not the world we live in.

However phrases like "kill yourself" are beyond the line. You cannot predict the mental state of the person you're sending it to. How would you actually feel if that person went through with it? What if their death is on your hands? Would you be okay with that? Would you be okay if the police came to your door and said you led to that person's death? (Don't think that happens? It does, the state police and FBI do investigate digital threats. I know because I work with kids who make and receive threats and have had to deal with the FBI investigating them... and anon doesn't matter the FBI will track the IP address). I don't want that for anyone here. So please, choose your words wisely.

If you are in a bad place and lashing out is all you have, come talk to me or someone else in this fandom. I know that it is hurt people that hurt other people. I know if you are sending words like that you've been hurt. Let's break the cycle together!

This post is not targeted toward any one person. Yes, it was motivated by the anon I got, but I really hope that anyone who has ever used that phrase might read this and take it to heart.

Please choose kindness or nothing at all. Our fandom is small enough. I don't want to see other people leave because they feel pushed out or leave because they did something they can't take back.

Oh, and to anyone who has received harmful words like that. You are not alone. You can come to me or others to talk. Please don't believe those words. You are stronger and better than that!

I'm not sure how to end this so, here is a cute picture:

🎄 Mission Christmas – A kedvesség ajándéka Idén karácsonykor néhány gyermek csendre ébred – ajándékok, csillogás, ünneplés érzése nélkül. Nem azért, mert nem érdemlik meg az örömöt, hanem azért, mert családjaik nehéz idők járnak. Ezt szeretnénk megváltoztatni. Az adományod egy virtuális ajándék, amely melegséget, mosolyt és egy kis varázslatot hoz azoknak a gyerekeknek, akik egyébként nélkülöznék. Minden hozzájárulás segít abban, hogy az ünnepek egy kicsit jobban érezzék magukat, mint amilyennek lenniük kellene: reménnyel, kedvességgel és szeretettel teli. Tegyük fényesebbé ezt az időszakot – együtt.

We started this because we couldn’t ignore how many children feel forgotten during the holidays. For us, Christmas has always been about warmth, togetherness, and small moments of joy — and we believe every child deserves at least a glimpse of that. This isn’t just about gifts. It’s about showing someone they matter. That someone, somewhere, cares. We know we can’t fix everything. But if we can bring a smile to even one child this Christmas, then it’s worth every effort.

We’re truly grateful for every bit of support. Whether it’s a donation, a share, or simply taking the time to read this — it means the world. Thank you for helping us make Christmas a little brighter for those who need it most.

🎄 Mission Christmas – Bring Light to a Child’s Holiday This Christmas, some children will wake up to quiet. No gifts. No sparkle. No sense of celebration. Not because they’ve been forgotten — but because their families are going through tough times. We want to change that. Your donation is more than a gift. It’s a message: You matter. You’re not alone. Every contribution helps us bring warmth, joy, and a little magic to children who might otherwise go without. Together, we can make the holidays feel like they should — full of kindness, hope, and love.

💬 Why This Matters to Us We started this because we couldn’t look away. Too many children spend the holidays feeling left out, unseen, and unheard. For us, Christmas has always meant togetherness, small joys, and the comfort of knowing someone cares. We believe every child deserves at least that. This isn’t about big gestures. It’s about small acts of love that add up to something beautiful. If we can bring a smile to even one child this season, it’s worth everything.

🙏 Thank You Thank you for being here. Whether you donate, share, or simply take a moment to read — it means more than you know. You’re helping us make Christmas a little brighter for those who need it most

The one language that everyone understands. 💖

In a world that can feel a little disconnected, a simple act of kindness can make all the difference. This beautiful quote is a reminder that being kind isn't just a choice—it's a way of life that connects us all. Ready to make the world a little brighter? ✨