Last year, a friend of mine told me she had registered a MySpace account. Recently divorced and without family who lived nearby, said he was a little lonely and thought that would help you find and make some friends. I remembered the conversation I was doing research for this article, so I gave him a call and asked him to tell me their experience with social networking. The first words out of his mouth took me by surprise. She said: "MySpace is no substitute for real social life with real friends." She continued that she had recently canceled her MySpace account because she spent 4 or 5 hours every day on the site and do not seem to get anything from it. I asked if it was because it had not been able to make many friends. "It's not hard!" She said, "I had 1,247 friends listed on my profile page. The problem was, in fact they were not real friends. I spent hours reading your comments and blogs and e-mail exchange with a few strange. One day you just hit me - I had all of MySpace friends, but I was still lonely as hell and sitting at home on the computer instead of having a little fun when I decided to stop wasting time on people who really did not care and that. do not really care about me. "Anne said she never imagined the vortex of agitation found on MySpace. She said, "She envisions a world where friendship is a numbers game and most are friends FINE (friends only in name)." She said she was embarrassed to admit that the ridiculous number of hours each day spent maintaining your online persona for the sole purpose of attracting more of these so called "friends." "MySpace brought the worst of me," he said. "The profile pages are a terrible vanity. I have to admit that embellished a bit, but I think everyone does. I loved that feeling of validation that I received when someone post a nice comment on my page, or when I sign up to find five new friend requests waiting in the queue. It was a pathetic performance, really, but only recognized the pathos that was after they left him. "Said Anne what she regretted most of their time on MySpace that was had not spent an equal amount of time and effort over the past year trying to meet people and make friends closer to home. "I met some good people on MySpace. If they lived closer to me, I'm sure it would have been great friends, but they did, there was no coffee or go shopping together or call each other for help in times of trouble Here are some the best things about having friends -.. and the more the better. "I asked Anne if he cared to give some advice to others who may be considering the creation of online social networks as a way to make friends. She said not to discourage anyone from trying to MySpace, but I suggest you find a healthy balance between your social life online and offline. She said there were signs warning that it was not maintaining that balance, especially spending more than an hour or so on MySpace every day: · messaging, email, comment, • Participate in promiscuous friending, · Escaping my boring life by reading other people's blogs about their lives a little less boring, ° constant editing my profile page to which I think is more attractive, more fashionable, more "together" than it was, · Playing cyber tickle slap 'n with a stranger who was probably a total loser I would not be less than twice in the real world, · Taking myself too busy to keep in touch with old friends in my own right decided backyard.Anne that their lives would be happier and less if you only put in many hours to reconnect with old friends and make new friends closer to home. She canceled her MySpace account to focus their time and effort to do just that. "It may not be the right decision for everyone, but it was right for me. I'm finally getting the social life that makes me happy and enjoying the company of true friends, "said Anne. "Like you, for example. You got me through a few weeks ago. Now that's a true friend. "
