#solo polyamory

A triad consisting of two women and one man is just as valid as a complex polycule consisting of many-gendered folks is just as valid as a solo poly person with multiple parallel relationships. (And so on!)

flag id: a flag with 9 stripes, with the fourth and sixth being a bit larger than the rest and the fifth being much larger than those. they are black, white, beige, light pink-red, very light indigo, light pink-red, beige, white, and black. end id.

banner id: a 1600x200 teal banner with the words ‘please read my dni before interacting. those on my / dni may still use my terms, so do not recoin them.’ in large white text in the center. the text takes up two lines, split at the slash. end id.

solomono/monosolo: being open to either monogamous or solo polyamorous relationships

[pt: solomono/monosolo: being open to either monogamous or solo polyamorous relationships. end pt]

for anon! this is a polymono subtype, so i made a similar flag and added beige from the solo polyamory flag.

tags: @radiomogai, @liom-archive, @macchiane, @genderstarbucks, @orientation-archive, @maggore, @dragonpride17

In my experience even if non monogamous people use labels to describe their type of non-monogamy it's always juuuust a little bit different than what you thought that meant. I don't think they're lying (unfortunately, you'll still run into liars and cheaters just like in monogamy) I think that human communication is just flawed in the way that it takes a lot longer to convey and understand ideas than we expect.

For example, what might look like kitchen table polyamory to one person might not to another. In my ideal kitchen table polycule we share what resources we can, help with childcare, share meals, have an open-door policy, hold regular group meetings, and may or may not live together. What is your definition of KTP?

You also get to observe new and well-established polyam couples, triads, and 'cules interacting with each other during these events. You get a little more insight into what wouldn't work for you and boundaries you would want to put up.

I have started two long-term relationships, two short-term relationships, and about a dozen platonic friendships by attending local polyam events.

Having a community as a polyamorous person is so important! We face discrimination in our jobs, families, schools, etc. It can be very isolating. You'll need support!

Definition and flag can be found on this wiki post: