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Is it a mistake to get back with an Ex after a break-up? Yes. Yes it is. 10 biggest mistakes we make with our Exes post breakup.•

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We all have that mythological Ex. The one who was “perfect”. Who we put on a pedestal, even when they likely didn’t deserve it. Usually they’re also the Ex we make most of our post-break-up mistakes with. •

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For me, it was my second serious boyfriend. For the sake of privacy, let’s call him Bill. Bill was my longest relationship (3 years and 3 months). We had a whole Romeo & Juliet romance, and for a long time I believed he was my “Happily Ever After”.•

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Single life has been one of my best teachers, from which I have learned valuable lessons. Lessons which could not be derived from anywhere else. One of my biggest single life lessons is “mistakes I’ve made with my Ex boyfriends”. •

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What, how and why the mistakes were made. I’ve gathered up 10 biggest mistakes we make with our Exes that are fairly common. I’m pretty sure you have been through some of them too. •

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Which is okay, we’re only human and it’s part of life. The trick is to learn from them and do better next time. •

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How about you? Who is your mythological Ex? Did you make any mistakes with them?•

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***please share and spread the love 💜 ***

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Sudah umur segini belum pernah pacaran? Iya. Ada yang salah? Tidak.

Tapi, bukan berarti aku tidak pernah mencintai atau dicintai oleh lawan jenis.

Aku seringkali terjebak pada perasaanku sendiri, tapi tak apa aku memilih jalan untuk masih sendiri.

Aku single dan berbahagia, banyak hal yang membuatku berkembang saat sendiri.

Bahagia bukan hanya ketika memiliki kekasih akan tetapi dikelilingi orang terkasih seperti keluarga, teman-teman, sahabat, anak didik, dan semua yang memiliki energi positif untukku.

Kita berbahagia karena barangkali terbebas dari salah satu dosa laki-laki dan perempuan.

Kita berbahagia karena bebas berekspresi tidak ada yang membatasi.

Kita berbahagia karena untuk menjaga diri kita sendiri.

Nothing is perfect. Even myself. Especially myself. What’s even perfection? I am not going to redo your philosophy class but I don’t believe in perfection. I want to believe in myself and find ways to prioritize my mental health and make myself a priority. Something I have learned is that you cannot attach your happiness or worthiness to someone else because most times people will let you down. I think it is important to live for yourself and not exist only to seek something or someone that is supposed to make you feel fulfilled. Easy to say I know because especially for a woman, we are taught at a young age that getting married should be the ultimate goal but is it though? Why do we all have this pressing inner need to be in a relationship? People in relationship don’t look necessarily happier, perfect or less lonely. 

I am trying to learn how to change that mental state. I want to appreciate being with myself more. It is what I strive for. The difficulty lies in the fact that I often feel lonely and that’s very overwhelming particularly in that day of age when you can connect with thousands by a click of your mouse. We must love ourselves first to believe that we are enough.

I realize not too long ago that I don't need nor want a relationship. I was about to make efforts and accept to let go of my freedom and independence FOR A GUY but I am not ready. I need to continue to learn and accept who I am before throwing myself to the first guy who shows a little bit of interest towards me even if he is good-looking.  

Happy Valentine's Day to JSE Community and @therealjacksepticeye !!!