#shanisims

I don’t know what’s being said in the private chats and DM’s, but I notice some interesting behavior ever since @shanisims posted her “goodbye post”. I don’t normally do callout post or bring personal drama out into the open, but my intuition tells me some shit is being said about me that ain’t true. Shanisims befriended me and we began chatting in the DM’s, then on Discord. We shared story stuff, personal stuff, then we started collaborating together. We swapped sims. I did some builds for her, and we collaborated on each other’s stories. She engaged in my content and vice versa. Then one day she just stopped. Once I noticed I stopped engaging too. Then next thing I knew... I was blocked on all platforms. I have another blog I use for shitposting that I follow my favs from. I really enjoyed her story, so I quietly continued to read it from there. At some point she alludes to a “beef” when she brings my OC’s persona into her story. She mentions that Bishop looks different because of “reasons”. Then she does it again later on in the story when Bishop is featured. My question was why allude to anything? No one was asking unless you want them to ask. 👀🤨 It was passive aggressive, calculated and cunning. Mind you whatever offense that allegedly took place happened over a year ago.  So, I decided to ask her what her problem was. I sent her message from that account, and I said it was me. I didn’t pretend to be anonymous. I wanted to know what her beef was with me and if she has such an issue with me that she had to block me why continue to use my sims, my builds and my character’s persona? I told her I felt used. She goes out of her way to be extremely friendly and overly helpful online then for whatever reason she just turns on you.  In the past I’ve been told by her and a few others that I am not afraid of confrontation, and that I can come off very blunt and direct. I’m 49 years old I don’t have time for games, and I try very hard to make sure I’m understood online. However, I do think, re-read, and re-write my words many times before I hit send so that they aren’t misinterpreted online since my tone can’t be heard.  All I know is not too long after her goodbye post went up, mutuals I have had online friendships and history with stopped engaging with my post. Some even unfollowed me. I don’t know what she’s telling these people. When I confronted her, she never responded. Instead, she played victim and did a goodbye post. You would’ve thought I bullied her, pulled up to her house and was outside ready to fight or something. I’m also calling out some of my so called “mutuals” cough cough @storiesbyjes2g and @ladybugsimblr​ because in the year 2023 where online friendships are no longer considered a foreign concept, people like y’all will happily discard them instead of doing the hard work of confronting, communicating, accountability, honesty and resolving. Instead, you hid behind platitudes like “protecting my peace” or pretend to be cool just to go radio silent afterwards. But I’m just some random lady on the internet so, who gives a fuck right? This goes for anyone else that may have passed judgement on me regarding Shani without knowing all the facts. I still don’t even know what happened! Take away from this what you will but I wanted to put it out there because I’m hurt and felt like being a petty bitch. Now here is real drama you can “protect your peace” from. 

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First I have to honor the bestie 💖🌟@crimewriter💖🌟 who I'm always discussing messy scenarios with.

Patricia Carosella ( @crimewriter's main oc ) and Salvatore have a messy, consistently non-sexual, non-romantic relationship. The funny thing is they're both fire signs. Pat's an Aries, Sal's a Leo, and I feel their compatibility is reflected in their dynamic. When these two get along, things are great. But when these two clash, things are awful. And believe me, in every AU I've created with crimewriter they're bound to clash and call each other names. In contrast to that, Patricia and Eve have a much calmer, significantly better dynamic. But admittedly more of the intrigue in their dynamic comes when I depict Eve outside of her 20s, because she's a calm figure - if not a maternal figure - Pat looks to. Then there's the Brazilians...Franco and Pilar are longtime friends due to their families knowing each other. In the present, Pilar is the wife of an (incarcerated) cartel head and I'm not gonna lie, Franco aspires to have his childhood companion's heart and money. He really does care about her though. It's not just about money, though money helps.

With @shanisims

Both of us have already said that Linda is an honorary Belle of Pearl and definitely Pamela's bestie. 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ While this itself implies a lot of things about their adventures I believe that this would mean Eve would have been in the midst of Deonne and Junior when she was young. Eve always shied away from boys growing up so she would have kept her distance from Junior. Instead, she would've admired Deonne so much. Deonne is older than her, prettier than her, Eve would have wanted to dress like her, wear her hair like her! It wouldn't be a stretch to say that Eve - as the only girl in the midst of many male cousins - would subconsciously create this imagined ideal form of Deonne who would be her big sister. As an adult, Eve's love for Deonne would have significantly calmed down. Yet, she would continue thinking Deonne is so pretty and respectable. Of course, this love would plummet if news about the Winterfest party came out. With all of this said, I definitely feel like Renee and Eve would become great friends. They're both loving girls who are navigating young adult life! 💖And, if she learned of Junior's previous relationship with Renee - well, let's just say Eve has to distance herself from Junior too. A side note - Tierra would love Nezuko too!! They would all be great friends! I could talk about so many more dynamics in a HFL and Dear Diary crossover but I'm gonna end it here. 😅

With @digital-deluxe

We've discussed Sal and Frank knowing each other as kids in the broke (Tartosan) part of Newcrest. The frequent pregnancies of Frank's mama were a hot topic spoken by Sal's mom Stefani at the hair salon. We also discussed how Sal and Frank's moms argued about WHO was a bad influence on WHO, refusing to recognize both of those boys were too mischievous for their own good. It was easy for Sal to make friends as a kid, but it didn't deter him from being sad when Frank moved to San Myshuno. But let's go a little deeper into this - When a teenage Sal goes to San Myshuno to visit some cousins and reconnects with Frank, he doesn't feel like he belongs with John's crew. Initially, Sal tried to roll with them, laugh with them, but he felt like an outsider since he isn't from San My. As a Leo, he also hated how John was the leader. He hated how John's family was rich. He hated how John saw Frank every day. 😢 This would lead to Sal thinking, 'oh he's not really tough he's just a snobby ass kid' and eventually challenging his authority. Real stupid teen boy stuff right here. In adulthood, Sal definitely meets up with Frank whenever he's in San My. If he planned to move there, Frank is the first guy he would message when looking for an apartment. As a grown man, he's over his petty dislike of John, but the fact John has went to college and had a nice job as an architect does have Sal (silently) like '😒 course he did.' I don't know if John will ever go on a pilgrimage to Tartosa but I do feel like there would be good vibes between the Russo and Nicosia family. While the Nicosia aren't crime affiliated - moreso taking a neutral stance towards 'politics' of that nature, I wouldn't be surprised if John's grandmother and Gigi's paternal grandmother had an excellent dynamic of some sort. Either that, or somewhere in history, they had ancestors who were married, making them distant cousins? I do think Damiano and John would get along well - John has good fashion sense, Damiano would dress sharp if he wasn't in Terra Amorosa, John would protect his brother at any cost, Damiano would protect Gigi at any cost. In the faaaaaar future, having a contact in Tartosa could be very useful for business.

I'm glad you asked! I was secretly hoping someone would 😊

This is a tricky question. Kai and Me-Me live very modestly, but they are rolling in dough. Me-Me's job plays very well, and the farm has been bringing in lots of money, so they are officially millionaires - but they don't live like it.

Kai's most significant purchase was his climbing treadmill. Kai inherited their house from his grandparents (on his father's side), and it already came equipped with workout gear. If it weren't - Kai would have splurged on some. Because of his farming responsibilities, they don't get to vacation as much as he would like, but since their family is so big, Kai would spare no expense when it comes to accommodations (like when they rented that big house in Tartosa). He also spends money regularly on their gardener, who helps keep the crops healthy and thriving.

Me-Me's father, Merlin, was a cheap skate, and I believe Me-Me might have inherited that to a certain extent. She rarely spends money on herself. But she does splurge when it comes to gift-giving. She'd rather spend extravagantly on other people.

Wade is slightly spoiled. He grew up reading fairy tales and adventure stories with rich princes and princesses, so he believes his life should be like that. He does not like living on the farm because it makes him feel like a plebeian (this will come up in the next update).

Mason doesn't care about material things yet. So if there's anybody who would be perfect for inheriting the homestead and living in such a small town, it would be him.

Thanks a lot for this ask @shanisims ♥ You always find nice ones to make us elaborate more on our babies !

I'm going to answer for the DH gang as usual ^^

Destiny and Leïla both love birthdays. It's a good way for them to organize the best day for their loved ones. Destiny is more into parties and Leïla into familial events.

Halloween and midsommar are the witches favs aka Leïla, Halette and Denise, also Chester mainly for occult reasons. Renji is also a huge fan of this holiday since he's a kid. He loves the weirdness of it and now that he's a vampire, it's the only night he can feel a bit "human" so ...

Aïssa and Hiro are more Christmas fans as it's a time for nostalgia, family and good food. Hiro also loves to receive presents, Aïssa loves to make them and see how people react on it.

Milo loves love so ... Valentine day and Pride month are probably what makes him the happiest. Even though he spends most of his Valentine days alone, he still loves the power of love around.

Melany has a lot of clothes and wears a good bit of it! I try to capture how big her closet is by swapping out her outfits often and not letting her repeat too much.

Nick's cardigan collection can rival Melany's closet LOL. I thought about doing a little scene after they move into the new house, Mel goes in the closet to put her clothes away only to find there was no space LOL. She was gonna stand there with her hands on her hips shouting, "NICK!! We have a problem!" 😅 But I decided to do something else instead. He dreams of a closet just for them in his dream house like women dream of shoe closets lol.

Nadia has so many clothes, she can't wear them all. In my mind, there is a fourth bedroom in their condo she turned into her closet. When events pop up, she rarely needs to shop because she always has something. She shops periodically and buys whatever she likes whether she needs it or not. She taught this tactic to Melany.

Kameron has a respectable size closet and wears everything in it.

Nate left most of his clothes in San Myshuno since not too many clothes are required in Sulani lol. His closet is small, and he wears everything in it.

I have not thought very much about the holidays in Armorica. I've established New Year's Day as a big holiday, and there is enough about the setting that is ambiguously Catholic that I think there would likely be a lot of holidays grounded in religious tradition, even if the modern-day celebrations are largely secular.

I'm a little hesitant to bring real holidays into my setting because it drags real world history and religion into the setting...if there is christmas in armorica, does that imply the existence of sim jesus? do i want to open that can of worms? am I the only person who thinks about this on this level? (answers: yes, no, perhaps)