#selfshipping asks

because I couldn't find a list easily that fit what I was looking for! Please feel free to reblog, and have fun <3

These also work for ships and ocs in general; there’s no requirement for you to use them specifically for selfshipping! Questions below the cut!

Lavender Haze: How is your love life with your F/O perceived? Is it easy being in love or do you have to ignore a lot of negativity?

Maroon: What is the color of your love and how does the symbolism relate to your F/O? 

Anti-Hero: Is your F/O more of a hero or an anti-hero (or a villain) Do you or your F/O ever experience feelings of inferiority or have moments of weakness and how do each of you handle them? 

Snow On The Beach: What is the strangest or perhaps the most unexpected aspect of your relationship with your F/O?

You’re On Your Own, Kid: How do you and your F/O handle being alone? Is it a struggle or have you both learned to embrace it?

Midnight Rain: If you and your F/O have been in a lengthy relationship, how have the two of you changed and grown since the start of your relationship or have you stayed the same?

Question…?: If you had the opportunity to ask your F/O one question, what would it be? 

Vigilante Shit: Is revenge important to you or your F/O? How far are either of you willing to go to take revenge against someone who has wronged you?

Bejeweled: What are the shiniest, brightest parts of you and your F/O and your personalities? 

Labyrinth: At what moment did you know you had fallen in love with your F/O? 

Karma: Do you or your F/O believe in karma and how important is it to the both of you?

Sweet Nothing: How comfortable are you and your F/O with one another? Is yours the type of relationship that you feel safer with one another than anyone else?

Mastermind: Do the two of you prefer to leave things up to chance or is it preferential to make plans for your future? Which one of you is the mastermind?

Hits Different: How has being with your F/O changed your life?

The Great War: Did you or your F/O have to fight for your relationship or did things come together without hardship? Do you ever have fights in your established relationship?

Bigger Than The Whole Sky: How do you and your F/O handle loss?

Paris: Is there somewhere you and your F/O go to forget the rest of the world exists? If not, would you like to?

High Infidelity: How do you and your F/O keep your relationship fresh and maintain the love that you have? 

Glitch: Are you and your F/O compatible or are you polar opposites? How does this affect your relationship?

Would’ve, Could’ve, Should’ve: Does your F/O have any regrets, canonically or not? Do you?

1. How was your first date like? Where did you guys go? Were either of you nervous or were you able to keep your cool?

2. How was it like when you introduced your f/o to your friends/family? How about you meeting their friends/family?

3. What about public displays of affection? Are you open about your relationship or do you prefer not to be? How many people know about it?

4. What is your love language? What is theirs?

5. When you guys spend time with each other, what do you normally like to do? Go out to places, chill at home, etc.?

6. How do you guys comfort each other?

7. Have you guys adopted any pets? If not, do you guys want to?

8. What kinds of gifts do you guys like to give each other?

9. Do you guys like to cuddle? Handhold? Hug? Kiss~?

10. Have either of you ever serenaded to each other before?

11. Do you plan to get married? If so, how is the proposal like? How about the marriage?

12. Do you guys ever want to have children, or do you prefer not to?

13. Have you guys ever gone to a formal event together?

14. Would you consider yourself a romantic person? Is your f/o one?

15. What kinds of holidays do you guys like to celebrate together?

16. Do you guys like to dance together?

17. What kinds of shows/movies do you watch together?

18. How do you guys handle jealousy?

19. What kinds of quirks do you have that your f/o likes? What quirks of theirs do you like?

20. How do you guys fluster each other? Are either of you prone to blushing?

21. Do either of you guys like to cook/bake? 

22. How was your first kiss with your f/o like? What kinds of kisses do you like to give them (cheek, lips, hand, etc.)? Vice versa?

23. Do you guys learn new things from each other?

24. Even though you and your f/o are dating, do you ever go to anyone for romance advice? How about your f/o? Do they go to anyone for advice?

#ok but now that i think about it it must be pretty insane to be born with memories from other people

Yep, probably. I can’t remember the full extent to which Kingdom Hearts already explored this with Xion and Roxas (and maybe also Sora), but it definitely is quite the concept when you think about it a lot. Admittedly, it helps alleviate the fact that Techne comes into existence at age fifteen ‑ I like to think that, as well as the specific memories, they also “inherited” all the instincts required to come across as if they had lived through those years. Makes it much easier that way!

#how does techne feel about those memories? do they feel “empty” / like they're missing something because they can't meet aria and clio?

Overall, it varies depending on the context (or lack thereof). The clearest/most vivid one they have is arguably the one that confuses or unsettles them most, because it’s the finale of KHUX. In general, though, most of the memories are at least somewhat positive, which helps them be more comfortable with them even if it is also still slightly disconnected. To try and use a weird simile, I imagine it’s a bit like knowing about a celebrity’s relationship from social media, but then all of a sudden that couple is now in your class or something, so you start seeing things about them that they don’t post. You feel like you know them better than you should, almost, and that’s sort of the vibe Techne gets about us both.

They definitely do want to get more answers about what they “know”, and would take any opportunity that presented itself to find out more or potentially meet us both (especially to meet us both).. but, they don’t really know how to find opportunities like that, which makes it difficult to actively pursue that goal on their own without something happening first.

It’s, if you’ll allow this, a missing link. =P

#or do they feel alien to the memories/experiences because they actually belonged to other people?

For some of them, they definitely do, especially those that are more clear (and so more clearly not theirs) - but it isn’t always easy for them to actually tell that the memories aren’t theirs, because they aren’t always in perfect detail. The way it works is that they have Aria’s memories of Clio, and Clio’s memories of Aria.. but many of them are vague enough that Techne isn’t 100% confident about that fact themself yet. For those that are more vague or fleeting, it’s easier for them to sort of.. absorb or transpose the knowledge in their own right; it’s like the difference between remembering someone told you a fact and remembering you yourself read the fact, which is not a distinction I imagine many people keep clear about everything they learn; you just remember the fact itself and forget the context.

For example, when their friend Nimda commented on not liking alcohol because it smells bad to her, Techne nodded and said: “Fair enough, honestly. I’ve heard that one before. At least, I think I have..”. Was it them who heard that? No. Aria said it once, around Clio, which is why they “inherited” that memory of hearing it said. So that’s an example of how they aren’t always sure, because in this case their first instinct was to assume they’d heard it.

#do they think about their memories a lot or do they live more in the present?

They think about them more than they let on to others, certainly - particularly because they don’t exactly talk about these memories to others much (Nimda has no idea about them yet, for example, and she’s currently the person they’re closest with post-canon). From the ones they’ve thought about most, it’s clear that they aren’t taking place in Scala ad Caelum, so they don’t think that those around them in that world in canon would be of much help in figuring out the answers. But they are also generally someone who very much lives for the now, as well as the future; these are just one of the few things that could hold them back or distract them from that.

Why have you picked that name and surname for your s/i?

Do Mari's Pokémon have nicknames? Would the Frosmoth she(?) got from Grusha have a nickname?

Aside from Grusha, are there any other characters Mari gets along well with? Are there any whom she dislikes?

Hello Cookies!! Thank you very much for this, I hope your day's been alright in return!! ^-^

It's always okay to ask questions about my self-inserts, and Mari (edit: now called Rina) is no exception - I'm really touched that you want to know more about her!! Thank you for these questions, I'm happy to give you their answers!~

Why have you picked that name and surname for your self-insert? - Rina's forename is derived from aquamarine, a type of gemstone (specifically a form of beryl, which is the same mineral as emerald)! The gemstone tends to be a light blue or cyan colour, fitting its name being derived from the Latin aqua marina (“sea water”), but the colour aquamarine actually looks much more green on its Wikipedia page, and the shades depicted there are ones I intend to incorporate into Rina's design in some way!

I also went with Rina specifically because.. not only is it completely contained within the Italian word for aquamarine (which is acquamarina), and I am Italian in part, but it also works as a nickname derived from some longer names; I've used it in the past as a nickname for my Fire Emblem self-insert for example! When I played Pokémon when I was younger, I already had the whole "never use your real name online!" thing instilled into me.. and that even extended to singleplayer games, like Pokémon. I didn't want to use my real name, so I made up a name to call myself, and that name itself also ended in -rina. So, since she represents "how I used to play Pokémon" in many ways, it felt nice being able to call back to that by calling her Rina!

As for her surname, Topaz - this is also a type of gemstone, in the same rank as aquamarine, and while it can come in many colours, I know it best as being orange, which fits Rina's use of Fire-type Pokémon. It's also known for being the main birthstone of November, which is when my birthday is, so that's a big reason why I picked it - but I also liked that it symbolises friendship according to Wikipedia, given that the name of Hoenn itself has a similar meaning about "abundant relations" according to Bulbapedia! Plus, I just think it's a nice word to say, even if I didn’t feel it would work too well as a first name - and I also think "Rina Topaz" flows quite nicely as a combo~

I'm considering having her full first name be Marina, as I think I introduced her on the last post I made about her, but.. it's not something she actually ends up getting called much. Doesn't make much sense to call someone with a lot of Fire-types that, does it? =P

Do Rina's Pokémon have nicknames? Would the Frosmoth she(?) got from Grusha have a nickname? - Yes, Rina nicknames all of her Pokémon! I haven't quite decided if she follows any particular theme in doing so; I may just say she(?) doesn't, and recycle nicknames I've given to the Pokémon she uses in my own past playthroughs of the games, where possible. For example, her Blaziken is called Fiore - which is the Italian word for "flower", but looks (though doesn't sound) like the English word "fire" - and her Ninetales is called Kitsu, from the Japanese kitsune which was an inspiration for Ninetales' design. (I may change this, I just know I’ve called my Ninetales either Kitsu or Kitsune in past playthroughs.)

Following this logic, I do think she would also nickname the Frosmoth she got in the trade with Grusha, but I'm not sure if its nickname would stand out amongst the rest of her team well, depending on if I go with a theme (and if I do go with a theme, it would probably slightly misalign with that theme). (I'm also not 100% sure it will remain a Frosmoth; I picked that for her because I Shiny-hunted it in Shield once, but I forgot Grusha does actually have one on his team in-game, and the implication is that the trade took place before the player battles him in Paldea because it's why he has an Altaria in his party. So I may change Rina's Frosmoth to.. possibly a Glaceon? I do have one in Violet, actually; I think he's called Snowball.)

Aside from Grusha, are there any other characters Rina gets along well with? Are there any whom she dislikes? - I like to think she gets on with lots of characters! She's quite positive as a person, which does a lot to endear others to her in my opinion. My idea for how I want to present her personality may change as I develop her more, but I do want a general sense of friendliness to persist, given that my other Pokémon self-inserts are quieter or more closed-off by comparison.

I don’t have any specific examples in mind right now for people she would dislike, but.. I know she’s very adamant about letting people and Pokémon take the paths they want to take in life, and not having things imposed on them by others. Everyone’s journey is so different, and the world of Pokémon has so much to it to appreciate; she doesn’t like it when people try to force their view to be the only one, or pull people away from taking one path or another. From villainous teams seeking power selfishly, to Trainers who just order their Pokémon around instead of working with them as true teammates, I think this is definitely a trait she dislikes.

I hope that these answers were alright for you!! Thank you so much again for the opportunity, I really do appreciate your interest very greatly!! I’d love to hear about whatever you’ve been thinking about recently too ‑ I want to repay the opportunity if there’s a way I can!!

Hello, Cookies! Thank you so much for your message; it's really kind of you!!

I've posted about my Hoenn self-insert very intermittently over the years, but never any kind of specific "here's an info/lore post" sort of thing. This is because, despite my best efforts, I've never been able to decide on any details concretely - her name not least of all >w<

Over the course of me answering this ask, I have managed to collate some things for you, so I've put those under the readmore because.. well, as usual, I rambled. But before I get to all that, I want to say thank you so much again for this because I really appreciated you sending it!!!

@sarahs-malewives

ohohoho! Thank you very much for this, Sarah!~

I looked her up, both on the wiki and a cutscene in-game, and.. while I also won't spoil her story, it's a very interesting one!! I like how it echoes one from a previous Dragon Quest game. (Also, I thought I recognised the name of her voice actress when I read it, and was proven right upon hearing the voice. In keeping with a continual theme of overlap for these games, she shares a VA with Yotsuyu from Final Fantasy XIV! Another tragic villain, ironically..~) The trait of her and the other people of her village speaking in haiku is also really neat - I can't imagine that was easy to localise by any stretch!

Thank you so much for sending this in! Even though my favourite Dragon Quest game is IX, which is really different to a lot of the other titles, I do have a soft spot for anything X or XI-related I come across, out of the whole series. Maybe I’ll have to see if I can experience more of the game in some way..

Camellia: "But of course, my liege."

(question source: "F/Ovember Ask Game (for romantic F/Os)" by v-selfships)

💓 - What first drew you to Lorenza? What about her made you fall in love? - "That would be.. Hm. There was much that gave me reason to be curious, at first. The dignity with which she(?) strove to carry her(?)self; the gentle calm with which she(?) addressed my brother, distant though it may have been at first; the calculating intelligence she(?) nonetheless relished demonstratrating at other times; and of course, the long history she(?) shared with Cantarella, of all beings. When combined, there were many aspects that likely came across as discordant to a more casual onlooker, but learning the truths behind these served as more motivation to learn of her(?) further than I had anticipated feeling. From there.. I would have to say it was both these aspects and others which drew me in more closely. Love, as it were, came about rather unexpectedly, or so one might argue.. Nevertheless, I will always be grateful it did."

🌞 - What is something that Lorenza does that never fails to brighten your day/make you smile? - "..Despite us having been wed for quite some time by now, counting our initial proceedings at the Crystarium, there is still.. very much a particular sense of joy I feel when hearing my lady refer to me as her(?) wife while conversing with others. I have also often noticed how she(?) will shift her posture when doing so. The way in which she(?) does this can vary, depending on circumstance - in more casual settings her(?) movements are slightly dramatic, serving to highlight my presence, while at times where more tension is present, she(?) has a tendency to step slightly in front of me, as if to offer protection. Logic and etiquette would dictate I stand forwards in her(?) stead, should the situation worsen further - but even so, the impulse is endearing in its own way. ..It is ever reassuring to be reminded I am hers as much as she(?) is mine."

👕 - Do you have a favourite outfit or piece of clothing to see Lorenza wear? - "..For this, I must admit that no particular favourite comes to mind immediately. However.. my lady's appearance in general has changed quite dramatically in the time we have known each other. Though gradual at first, she(?) initially appeared more akin to a Miqo'te, yet has been able to allow more of her(?) truer features to show and return over time. In the wake of.. more recent events - before our Ceremony of Eternal Bonding - this change reached its maximum; Lady Lorenza has subsequently taken to applying glamours over her(?) form, to ease interaction with those less familiar with her(?) nature. The nature of our bond, however, allows me to look upon her(?) as she(?) truly is, regardless of such disguising magics being applied - and I would not have it any other way.