#self-conscience

You’re not supposed to ask, “Am I pretty?” or say, “I’m really hot!” Don’t take the last piece of chicken on the plate OR the last brownie. Don’t gawk at people in a public place, even Wal-Mart, they have a right to dress that way, or be with that person. If you don’t like it, don’t look! If you go to someone’s house for dinner, don’t stay until they are yawning openly in your face, and if you…

Today, a counselor of mine told me I should write and blog again...about positivity. So...here it goes.

If you're reading this, I shall have to thank you for believing in me enough to read on. I sure hope I hold your attention...and thank you for giving me a chance.

Today, I wanted to do some research on what it takes to really start to self-heal, and self-grow. Informing yourself and intelligence is the key to success on any journey. My trouble is that I have a lot of pride. I feel as if I know what I need to do; I’ve heard it all before. And I always felt like there was literally no hope for me, as I’m sure you’ve felt at one time or another. Here’s a secret though: I may know the right steps I need to take in order to improve my situation, but my intelligence on the matter is not developed enough for me to judge so quickly on whether or not I can really self-improve myself. In other words, I wanted to do some research for myself and for you, if you’re open to it, on some good steps and tips to start you on a path of self-healing rather than self-destruction, and motivation to help keep you on that path.

Doing research, writing, reading, studying…intelligence in general is such an important aspect of life. If your pride is getting in the way of you constantly learning and growing and expanding your horizons, you should consider breaking those ego barriers and allow yourself to be “one-up” on reality vs other life forms. It opens the way to allow ones own life to make more sense to the individual and I think that is a powerful reason why we should all have a thirst for learning. So, my points being, always go, seek and strive to find new things. And never think you know everything about a certain thing, ‘cause you don’t. 

Personal growth and “knowing thyself”, as some like to call it, are things we could all do a little more of. Knowing yourself, discovering your vices, your talents, your triggers, the things that make you happy, recognizing the things that do not make you happy are all important for the first step of growing. Recognize first your strengths, and then your weaknesses. For me, I didn’t want to accept the fact that I wasn’t a perfect human being, and that I did indeed have (hundreds) of faults and weaknesses. Recognizing those are important, especially for those who are extremely ego driven, like myself. You’re only as strong as your biggest weakness. You gain knowledge from admiring your strengths and recognizing your weaknesses. For me, it was realizing the negative group of people I had in my life for months, and how that was impacting my life negatively. This self-knowledge will guide you with the direction you need in order to better yourself. This direction will bring you the focus and dedication you need to go on with this journey you’ve decided to take.

Once this self-knowledge is in place and clear as day for you to see, you now have the information needed to continue your “journey”, and to see the changes you want to see within yourself. You also took the initial step in identifying the process in order to facilitate that change. So whether it be…you need help with self-confidence, letting someone go, confronting friendships, battling an addiction, Hell, I’ve needed self-improvement in all of these areas in my life. It can get overwhelming, but you’re stronger as a person by tackling these on and grasping it and bettering yourself within these areas of your life. You’re on the right track!

You go, Glen Coco!  Give yourself a high-five!

Most importantly, understand that this takes so much courage, to really look within yourself and clean up some areas. Look at it this way, when your car or your room begins to get dirty, and then there’s this point where…..it’s just so dirty that you don’t even want to start cleaning it. It’s starting to make you cringe just looking at it, you’re dreading the time it’s going to take to clean it, etc. Then, more time passes, and there’s a point where you just can’t even stand to look at it anymore, so you finally get your hands dirty and you begin to organize and clean your room or car, and you feel so much better afterwards. Self-Growing and cleaning is a lot like that, through my eyes. It’s going to hurt eventually just looking at the constant growing mess. But, this is the very thing that will disgust you so much to the point where…you have to clean up. Once you decide and recognize your strength, you can pick yourself up off of the ground and start that journey to a positive, happier life that you’re supposed to be living. You essentially have all of the tools at your fingertips to help you grow and get you out of this place you may feel stuck in. Always strive for more success, but be content with what you have.

I have a tattoo that states “a blessed unrest that keeps us marching, and makes us more alive than the others”. This has different meanings to everyone, but for me, it’s about breaking those ego barriers within myself, recognizing that I have a long journey ahead of me to get me out of situations and hardships. Never let your “deal of the cards” in life bring you down. You may have a lot going on, or you may have never had a mom or dad growing up, you may have fallen into drug addiction, or alcoholism, you may be having trouble getting over someone, etc. But, these frictions in your life are precisely the very things that make you stronger as a person. They are what make you different from other people, and the way you handle them is what “makes you more alive than the others”.

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