If you live in a non supportive environment, I wanted you to know that:

-We are a lot of people going through it right now

-No one should decide how you should define yourself

-Or present yourself, either.

-We are all stressed, angry, sad, but

-At least, we are not alone.

💜 Reach out. Reach out to me, your friends, your partner(s), chosen family. We all need community right now.

You are not alone. I love you all, and I am going through the same shit too. Take care of yourselves, stay healthy mentally, physically, emotionally.

The Yorkshire Dales are the heartland for cottage stays. Wharfedale — from Grassington down through Bolton Abbey to Ilkley — is one of the most accessible entry points, with good village pubs, dry-stone wall scenery, and solid walking on the Dales Way. Swaledale, further north, is quieter and more remote: Reeth and Muker are among the best cottage base villages in the county, especially for anyone who wants the feeling of genuine countryside rather than a tourist honeypot. Wensleydale, famous for more than its cheese, offers the Aysgarth Falls, Hawes, and the long valley north toward Teesdale.

The North York Moors are a different character entirely. The heather moorland in late August and September is extraordinary — vast sweeps of purple stretching to the coast — and the villages around Rosedale, Farndale, and Hutton-le-Hole give access to both moorland walking and the market towns of Helmsley and Kirkbymoorside. The coast here is one of England's most underrated: Staithes and Robin Hood's Bay are the standouts, each a cluster of old fishermen's cottages tumbling down to the water, and Whitby gives the whole coastline a dramatic anchor. Cottage availability on this stretch gets tight from July through August, so late September is often the sweet spot — the moors are still in colour and the crowds have thinned.

The Yorkshire Wolds are the county's best-kept secret. Rolling chalk escarpments and deep hidden valleys between Driffield and Malton, with almost no tourist infrastructure — which means good-value cottages and a genuine sense of solitude. The Great Wolds Valley around Thixendale and Wharram Percy is excellent walking country with almost no one else on the paths.

The north Kent coast is probably the best starting point. Whitstable is the obvious draw — the oyster sheds, the harbour, the weatherboarded cottages along Harbour Street — and it earns its reputation. But it books out fast in summer and prices reflect that. Slightly further east, Faversham is a better base for anyone who wants a medieval market town with a fraction of the Whitstable premium: good pubs, one of England's oldest breweries (Shepherd Neame), and easy cycling out to the marshes. Deal is the real find on the east coast — a proper working town with an unbroken Georgian seafront, a long shingle beach with no pier or amusement arcades, excellent independent restaurants, and a Timeball Tower that used to set ships' clocks. It has started attracting a quieter, discerning crowd, and cottage availability is still better than Whitstable. Broadstairs has a sandy bay, a strong Dickens connection, and a summer folk week in August that fills every bed for miles — book around it or embrace it.

Inland Kent rewards slower travel. The North Downs AONB runs across the county from the Surrey border to the White Cliffs — good walking country with villages like Chilham (half-timbered square, good pub, castle gates) and Wye (market town with a nature reserve on the chalk escarpment). The Weald is orchard and vineyard territory: Tenterden is a handsome base with a steam railway, a good high street, and access to some of Kent's best vineyards (Chapel Down, Biddenden, Gusbourne). Sissinghurst Castle Garden is a short drive from Tenterden and worth the National Trust admission — the White Garden in June is genuinely worth coming to Kent for. Headcorn, Biddenden, and the Cranbrook area all have good cottage stock in converted oast houses, which are a distinctive Kent building type and make excellent self-catering accommodation.

Romney Marsh is the strangest corner of Kent and possibly the most underrated. It is almost entirely flat — reclaimed from the sea over centuries — and has a particular quality of light that painters have always noticed. The villages are sparse and the medieval churches enormous for the population they serve, a legacy of the Marsh's prosperous wool-trading past. New Romney, Dymchurch, and Lydd are the main settlements; Rye is just across the border in East Sussex and makes a very good half-day trip for the Mermaid Street cobbles and a meal. Dungeness is unlike anywhere else in Britain: a vast shingle headland with fishing boats pulled up on the beach, two lighthouses, a nuclear power station on the horizon, and Derek Jarman's famous cottage garden. It is not conventionally pretty but it is utterly singular. Cottages around Lydd and Old Romney put you within cycling distance and the cycle route across the Marsh is flat, quiet, and excellent.