#rpc psa

It seems in a recent update, that Tumblr has removed the toggle for the 'email me about account activity', and is now sending people like myself anxiety-inducing emails regardless. Every time we log in. Which is why it was nice to be able to turn it off originally.

First, I’ve noticed that in the tumblr RPC, there’s this concept of ‘guilting,’ which I imagine is doing exactly that to try and get others to write with you(?) I want to make it very clear that I am NOT trying to do that with this post, or any posts I make or messages I send. If I’m venting, I’m doing just that, and of course I would appreciate a check-up message or whatever the fuck, but no one (even my friends!) is obligated to ‘take care’ of me, or ‘indulge’ me (through writing or otherwise).

I’m still relatively new to this, and there’s so many standards and things are so private with some people - if I may get personal for a moment, I have anxiety and social anxiety disorders, and the history of a not-very-good social/school experience. Saying that I’m ‘used to’ feeling othered and left out and etc wouldn’t be accurate, because it still hurts and can trigger my anxious spiraling every time, but it is something that has happened so much that I have come to expect it, if that makes sense. And of course, being new to this, I do feel a bit like I’m ‘outside.’

I write a lot of shit for this character blog I’ve made, because it’s fun and interesting and I love the people I’ve met and their creativity and I appreciate their compassion and kindness so very much. I write a lot of drabbles and Ammonia’s diary entries, headcanons and even those silly little music/lyric posts because it not only develops my character and gives my writing partners more to ‘work with,’ but because it’s enjoyable - and I do all this while very aware that my blog doesn’t get a lot of traffic.

I guess that the point I’m trying to get to is that my mind, the stupid anxious thing that it is, will worry and think that I don’t do a very good job here, and that I don’t ‘matter’ to those that matter to me. I don’t mean like, personally matter, I don’t think - I mean that I worry that I cherish my friends and sharing this hobby with them more than they do in return. That I feel excited and inspired and understood(?) when I get certain replies and asks and messages, but those people see me as someone to ‘get to/through.’

I just wanted to get this all off of my chest, so if I’m talking to you and come off as ‘weird’ in some way, or I reply to a thread with you the same day that you just replied to me (I have the privilege of a not super busy schedule, so when I get excited and inspired, I just kinda… go at it 😅), you know that it’s because I… care. A lot. Maybe too much, because that’s what anxiety can do, but that’s why I focus so much on the comfort of my friends/writing partners and try to make sure they don’t feel pressured or uncomfortable.

There is a time to publicly call someone out. There is a time for someone to put a foot down to call people out. Call out posts are a tricky topic but sometimes you got to do what you got to do.

But here's the thing, assuming everyone that does something you might think is such a cardinal rule of tumblr is so awful that you get the right to attack that person and threaten them doesn't make you better than someone else. Usually it just proves you are worse.

Educate, not dictate. Or block. Being liberal with the block button is a god sent for people that don't want to fight. But for the people that need to fight, try educating first THEN seek conflict. Because while not not everyone can accept critique's or is willing to change it's amazing the sheer amount of people that will, if there are people that are just willing to be calm, cool headed and polite and understand that other's make mistakes and sometimes do not know better.

If you dare to threaten to kill someone, assault someone, or anything like that you don't belong on tumblr YOU BELONG IN MAXIMUM SECURITY PRISON. If you think you're to soft for prison then you are to soft to be threatening people.

More importantly people in the real world die over death threats. Death threats aren't cute. People have literally had their workplace doxxed for standing in lettuce at a fast food restaurant. A man murdered his family and a group of discord sleuths caught him within a day (or two) of committing his atrocities and got him caught and arrested. Don't be confident in your anonymous status when you make threats.

If you think you can stay anonymous behind a blog you are way to confident. The internet is not a safe place for those that seek conflict. People have had their addresses doxxed on tumblr, just because it hasn't happened to you yet should not make you confident enough to threaten people.

Tumblr should be a safe place for people that might be rejected in their offline lives, and can be when people remember that you never know who you are talking to on the other side and treat other's how you want to be treated.

If, for any reason, you [the sender] can't or don't want to use tumblr's built-in "like" feature (be it that you're a sideblog, that you use your likes feed as bookmarks so limit what you like to specific types of posts,just personal preference, etc.), the person who reblogged this [the receiver] is welcoming to using emojis in the comment as an acceptable alternative.

Whether you use that exact emoji, or a different one, doesn't really matter. This is simply giving those who would not interact with a post otherwise permission to engage with an acceptable (to the reblogger's preferences) alternative.