Romance Object/Romantic objectification is a thing actually
This here is now in attendum to my one post where i ended up coming up with the concept of a "Romance Object" (basically a sex object, but applied to romance instead of sex).
It's such a weirdly common thing once you actually start to think about it, especially in amatonormative society. People fantasizing about their crushes, the tendency in most fandoms to romantically ship characters instead of platonically or otherwise, the very existence of the concept of a "dream partner" (prince or bride or otherwise) as an ideal to chase and lense to view potential partners through and measure up against. The willingness in extreme cases to also keep on persisting and pressuring another person with romantic gestures and so on.
And lastly also the perception and base assumption of simply being worth less for not acting perfectly like a romantic object. The patch up of that with "well, if they would've truly loved you, they wouldn't have done any of that" instead of literally just "woah, that was fucked up."
How every instance of two people, who happened to be able to fullfill each other's romantic desires and needs, gets picked out and shown around as an example of romance always being good and aspiring over the hundreds of couples where that just wasn't the case or didn't work out even with work put in.
How aromantic people have experiences of either getting pitied for their lack of romantic desire or not taken seriously when they are the object of romantic desire to someone. Or how often aromantic people get called cold hearted and emotionless, even manipulative for openly stating that they either just don't feel it or feel uncomfortable about receiving unwanted romantic attention.
And that's just the initial stuff I could think of here.
