AIO about food situation?
I went over to my gfs house and her grandparents (who knew I was coming over) made a meal for the family but I guess not for me? When the food was ready my gf left me in her room to go eat what they made and I havent eaten all day. It made me feel left out and I guess unimportant. When I asked her what they made she said that I can have some later if there is leftovers. Idk it j made me rlly sad and I was sad prior so it didnt rlly help. And my gf was aware that I didnt eat anything all day. Am I overreacting for getting upset abt this idk I feel like they rlly aren't obligated to feed me but i did feel unimportant to my gf and her family.
edit: j to clarify some things...i am 19 and she is 20. we are both hispanic and whenever she comes over my house me and my family always make sure to feed her whatever we order. so to not have that reciprocated hurt bad. her family is also very homophobic so im not sure if thats the reason they didnt make me food bc we are two girls dating but yeah
Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (91% confidence)
Top comment: “NOR This is really weird unless she’s a part of a different culture. Are they Swedish, Norwegian, or danish? I ask because it’s a norm that they don’t share food with guests. I still think it’s selfish, inconsiderate, and really mean. I would honestly say something about it, she sucks.”
Notable explanation: “NOR. Unless the family hates you which of course is less than an ideal outcome, I'm not sure I know a single grandparent who is isn't endlessly trying to shove food down a young person's throat regardless of whether they're family or friend. It's just a hunch but I feel like this might have something more to do with the gf. As a matter a fact, even if the family had issues with you, the gf should have either stood up for you to eat with them or assured you they would bring you a plate. I can't imagine doing that to a a friend let alone someone I was in a relationship with.”
Originally shared by Nem_y on r/AmIOverreacting on January 12th, 2026 at 1:21 AM UTC. Credit to u/lol2222344 and u/WAR_WeAreRobots_WAR for the quoted comments.
