#relationship stuff

don’t refer to my body parts as Lady Bits 🤮

consent to one thing doesn’t mean consent to everything

respect when i become averse and/or repulsed again, however long that lasts. buy a vibrator (or hit up other partners if we’re polyam/non-mono, that’s fine. we don’t have to be everything to each other.)

mutual discussion of intentions before physical intimacy. if fwb, then it’s a no from me and we’ll remain platonic.

be proud you’re with me, fuck the man haters in and out of the community. i want a partner who doesn’t give a shit about that exclusionary bs and shows me off.

i have trauma, like a lot of it. it may be A Time™️ to be intimate with me in-person or online/text, but i ask that you be patient and reassuring.

Yeah, you've got to stop that. And you know it. It's self-harm, just not the kind people tend to get excited about. Block her on her Instagram. Right now. Also, just in case you haven't yet, block him too. Even better: log out. See how that feels for a bit. I know, living in your life right now sucks and staring at other people's lives feels good, but only in a sugar rush kind of way. Once you get through the first few days, you'll feel better without it, I promise.

Now you've removed the immediate implement causing harm, but that doesn't mean the impulse is gone. Unfortunately, here the only answer is to throw yourself headlong into life. Sign up for a class. Train for a marathon. Commit to cooking every recipe from a cookbook. Pick up a big ol classic. Go on a vacation by yourself. Whatever calls to you, just get living.

You need some change. You need some distraction. Go prove something to yourself, that you can do something tough. And while you're focused on that, you'll find that doing the toughest thing (getting over this horrendous, completely unfair thing that happened to you) will come a little easier.

Me and my girlfriend's one year is prettyyy soon and if I have a hope of her getting the mail in time, I need to send it in three days