#relationship asks

That is your opinion, anon, and you are of course entitled to it! However, as you decided to share it with me unprompted, I'd like to point out three issues I have with you deciding to send me this ask:

1. I'm not straight, I'm bisexual. And being in a heterosexual relationship does not change or erase that.

2. People are free to refer to their significant other however they want. If you don't agree with somebody's preference on that, you can keep it to yourself because it does not impact you in any way, shape or form and therefore, it is none of your business.

Tag a friend or complete on your own to share insight about an OC and that person's love interest.

What's one quality that drew your OC to a specific love interest/current partner? What drew that love interest to your OC?

What's one fear about love one or both have had?

When do they feel closest emotionally to each other?

What's something they might fight about, and how might they make up?

@flamesprisoner || prompt in ask! || From Eli!

ooc. I'm assuming with Harumasa so! If not lmk!

FRIENDSHIP.     childhood friends  /  work buddies or coworkers  /  family friends  /  friends with benefits (benefit being Ratpo gives him tips to crimes going on)  /  smoking buddies  /  adventure buddies  /  fake friends (for work)  /  recently friends  /  party buddies  /  friendship of need  /  dying friendship  /  circumstantial friendship  /  partners in crime (but in solving crime lmao)  /  old friendship  /[your muse] is the good influence  /[your muse] is the bad influence  /[my muse] is the good influence  /[my muse] is the bad influence  /  opposites attract  /  ride or die  /  frenemies  /  roommates or flatmates  /  penpals  /  exes to friends  /  enemies to friends  /  other

ROMANCE.     childhood sweethearts  /[your muse is mines] childhood crush  /[my muse is yours] childhood crush  /  exes  /  exes to lovers  /  forbidden lovers  /  highschool sweethearts  /  secret relationship  /  opposites attract  /  long distance  /  unrequited [from your muses side]/  unrequited [from my muses side]/  unrequited [from both sides]/  skinny love  /  friends to lovers  /  enemies to lovers  /  spurious relationship  /  power couple  /  newly entered  /  soulmates [ metaphorical ]/  soulmates  [ literal ]/  awkward  /  turning toxic  /  toxic love  /  cheating [on your muse]/  cheating [with your muse]/  other 

FAMILIAL.     siblings [half]/  siblings [step]/[my muse] is an older sibling figure to your younger sibling figure  /[my muse] is a younger sibling figure to your older sibling figure muse  /[my muse] is a parental figure to yours  /[my muse] is a child figure to your muse  /  guardian figure  /  legal guardian  /  adoptive child  /  foster child  /[your muse] is taken under mines wing  /[my muse] is taken under yours wing  /  other

ANTAGONISTIC.     dangerous to each other  /  dangerous to others  /  unpredictable  /  rivals  /  petty  /  developing into sexual or romantic tension  /  based off family matters  /  based of off circumstance  /  based of professional matters  /  based off misunderstanding or lies  /  conflict of ideology  /  betrayal  /  hero - villain dynamic  /  enemies  /  fight club  /  friends turned enemies  /  lovers turned enemies  /  exes turned enemies  /  other

ooc. At least for now I can totally see them as friendly! From what Mew tells me he is against crime but yk. If he can do less paperwork he'd look away.

And while Sampo does do crime in the Hollows, he's relatively harmless so I can see Harumasa letting it slide xD

We got to meet in person this past summer, which was absolutely wonderful, but since they've been gone, I've been missing them so much

It's different when I know what it feels like to hold their hand, or to kiss their lips, or to hold them close

I miss them in ways I didn't know I would, but at the same time, I'm so happy to be able to miss them in that way. Because it means they were here.

Hi Nonny,

You've captured the bittersweet ambivalence of LDRs so beautifully and poetically.

I'd gently argue that this a good thing. They know you better now. They love you better. And you got to experience it! In person! Saying goodbye at the end of a visit is heartbreaking, but you have to remember that this is only the beginning. It will blossom into something much more beautiful if you both take good care of it. 🥰

Thanks for sharing your wonderful thoughts with all of us! x

Hang in there!

2. How important is your OCs relationship(s) to their story? Would it still make sense without it? Or is their connection to this other character integral to their development?

oh good one. honestly, as much as i enjoyed playing Aedan as a character, there wouldn't be stories for me to write without her romantic relationship with Kaidan because fills for that, little things to make it personal, was where i started with her. the first time she shared something "not military related" but personal, the reaction to sort of meeeting his folks, the places where her exterior mask cracked to let him in that just weren't in the game. Now, she very much developed a life of her own and i have stories to tell that *aren't* the romance but the romance is integral to the stories i share.

27. Is there a particular "trope" for relationships that you especially enjoy - e.g. enemies to lovers etc - and is this something that you set out intending to explore?

not...really. i do tend, one way or another, end up writing "this one person is special" sort of romances, "no one understands me like you do" and some of it has to do with the fact that i write characters sort of on the aro spectrum and, more or less, who see people as *duties.* Aeryn Hawke deeply loves her family and her friends, but romantically? Only Sebastian manages to make it work in that he refuses to let her categorize him as a protection job. Lust is easy, love is *hard.* Aedan, like Aeryn, has things like her career to care about but she got no early lessons in love- duty, sure but not *love* and she has so much healing to do that she's in her twenties before it even occurs to her that it's a thing she's *capable* of. And, again, it's because Kaidan won't let her see him only as "someone under my protection."

30. What advice do you have for someone considering creating a ship for their character? Or for someone unsure about writing relationships and/or sexual scenarios?

porn without plot is a thing, relationships don't have to be healthy/unhealthy to be interesting but ask yourself, "what does this reveal, what does this gift the character, what does this burden the character with" Love is a weakness as much as a strength and you need to be willing to reveal both. in the au devilverse, you can see a couple of moments when Aedan's body is clearly making different trust choices from her head and it reveals a lot about how uncertain she is in *this* when she's wholly confident on any other field.

if you're unsure about it, fade to black is an option. you can set up a scene that is absolutely sexy and have no sex at all. what is compelling in sex scenes you've seen/read. would your character do that? would they have a different reaction? write that

it's not just romantic relationships, though these days I only really do the romantic ones if they catch my eye. Platonic ones are more fun to do these days lol.

Sadie and Carter spent a long time apart so understandably have some difficulty understanding each other, especially at the start. But they do work well as siblings, and their differences compliment each others.

They're teasing and mocking with each other but also willing to do whatever it takes to save the other. They love each other dearly, and really only have each other left in their most immediate family (and only have each other readily available). They work together well and despite their struggles with each other come together when it matters and trust each other.