#reallifeshit

First of all, let me start by saying, there is no type of endearment for this kind of letter that even remotely sounds flattering. Second, if I were in your shoes, I’d probably dislike me too. I use the word dislike because hate is too strong to use against anyone, or maybe it’s just not in my personality to hate others. So to continue.... To the Woman who thinks I stole your husband, I didn’t. People like me don’t purposely put themselves in a position to hurt themselves or others. When I met your husband, I didn’t even know he was your husband. Hell, I didn’t even know he was married! I thought he was separated with one child. Maybe that makes me naive for believing him, or stupid for putting up with the lie he told, but I love him. He’s never been anything short of the BEST man in the world to me. He’s loved me unconditionally since day one, and did everything he had to do to make sure we ended up together. I’m sorry that during this process you were lied to, manipulated, and most of all I’m sorry you had your heart broken and world shattered. Had I known any of that was going to happen, I never would have fallen in love with him. However, I didn’t even know you still existed as a part of his life for over 6 months (especially because you were in different states and never saw one another.) How could I have known that you two were still technically married when he spent every single weekend with me for those 6 months, and never once mentioned you?

I’m sorry that he abandoned you or made you feel like you were anything less than important because that’s not true. You are a wonderful mother to his children, and an extremely strong woman for dealing with all of the pain he’s put you through. No one deserves what happened to you, and I hate that I ever got put into that situation in the first place. I don’t hate you, I don’t dislike you, and I don’t think anything bad about you. I only wish that things could have gone differently for you. I wish that he would have ended your marriage before ever getting involved with me, or just been honest with you when he first fell out of love. I’m sorry if you feel like I stole him from you because that was never my intention. I’m just a girl living in the world, who met a wonderful man and fell deeply in love with him.

I’m sorry that you two still argue over petty stuff sometimes because divorce is always difficult. I’m sorry that you have children involved who might be affected by this. I’m sorry that you have to live your life every day knowing he left you for me. Most of all, I’m sorry that you even had to be put through all of this in the first place.

This letter isn’t meant to be sarcastic, smart-assed, or mean. This letter is meant to let you know that I understand how you might feel about me, I understand your pain and suffering, and I understand that our soon to be blended family might not be what you wanted. However, it’s going to happen regardless of anyone’s feelings. So I’m writing this to let you know that I will always be supportive of his relationship with his children. I will always encourage him to be nice to you and get along with you for the sake of everyone (mostly your kids). I will never do anything out of spite to go against you, because that’s not in my nature. I can only promise you that I will always respect your thoughts and feelings as a woman and mother. I will always have his children’s best interest at heart, and I will always be sorry that I’m known as the woman who stole your husband.

I hope that one day our blended family can live in peace and happiness together. I hope that our children (half siblings) will be able to become good friends. And I hope that you know more than anything, none of what happened was your fault.

Sincerely,