#queer advice

My absolute favorite shirt EVER was my brother’s. It was a hand-me-down and like, all I wore. LOVED that thing, and I still have it. I refuse to get rid of it.

I was playing soccer at recess when I was super little, and it was boys vs. girls. I walked over to the boys side, and they told me to go with the girls. I said “sometimes I feel like a girl, and sometimes I feel like a boy” LITERALLY SO GENDERFLUID?? (I had to join the girls 😭)

Would get super jealous that boys could take off their shirt. Like weirdly obsessively jealous. And I’m not a jealous person. Like, I would cry about it.

Would get upset when my brother took off his shirt to sleep, swim, etc. because “It made me realize how much my chest had grown” and that made me hella uncomfortable.

Got SUPER excited when someone said I looked like a guy, and I didn’t realize it was an insult lol

i work two jobs, and in both, despite having pronoun pins next to my name tag, i’ve been getting misgendered constantly. my name is very much masculine but people still default to she, i think because of my voice.

I saw the photo you uploaded with tape and I wanted to ask, how do you apply it? I have been struggling with applying tape on my chest and yours seem to have a different technique on how I apply it (generally I just cut 3 tape stripes and stick them together but it always falls apart)

If you could explain it or give any tips I would be very grateful 😭🙏

better resource: https://transtape.life/pages/manual

first an aside because i want to make sure you hear it from someone young baby trans folks can unfortunately be really susceptible to being radicialized into reactionary beliefs and are more prone to having not really fully deconstructed their beliefs about the gender binary and oppositional sexism so i want to take you aside for a moment as someone who actively worked in part as a queer educator for my local community as a youth representative for some time and make some things clear and try to steer you down the right path

we have fewer differences than we dont we are all trans at the end of the day and there is no REAL delineating line between what is "masc" and what is "fem" ultimately theyre loosely defined but strictly enforced social constructs as well transmasc and transfemme are both terms that were created in order to give people gatekept out of the community more terms with which to describe their experiences the term transfeminine specifically was coined by a transfem named jane nance who actively believed gender identity labels needed to be more expansive and not restrictive or prescriptive and labels within the queer community have always been fluid and ever changing but it honors jane nances memory best when we discuss and adapt the language in ways that fit with how and why she made the terms and within that spirit and the spirit of linguistic descriptivism i would have and do argue that the terms are as useful as they can be used to describe ones experience regardless of any strict definition anyone might seek to impose upon them for instance afab transfemmes exist eg intersex transfemmes demigender transfemmes genderfluid transfemmes multigender transfemmes and transfemmes whove transitioned more than once as well amab transmascs exist eg intersex transmascs demigender transmascs genderfluid transmascs multigender transmascs and transmascs whove transitioned more than once

if you are trans and your gender OR EXPRESSION are masculine you can absolutely call yourself transmasc you would have every right regardless of agab so for instance i am a trans woman but im a butch trans woman i do not identify as transmasc but frankly it wouldnt be an incorrect descriptor

and vice versa if youre trans and your gender OR EXPRESSION are feminine you would not be wrong to decribe yourself as transfeminine

as well its worth remembering that trans is not short for transition you are not required to do so to be trans and any talk about transfem/transmasc being about "positionalities" is one that holds that being trans is inherently about going from one state to another with a specific binary endpoint when it isnt and there are far more ends to go to that dont exist on a flat one directional line

and it should also absolutely be said that as transmasc and transfemme are descriptors of two facets of how gender identity or expression can be understood its also fully possible and in fact common for people to be neither including binary trans men and trans women if they do not feel those words describe themselves

segueing into your question off of that id say that your relation to your chosen name and pronouns are your journey and i cannot speak to whats in your mind if they make you happy thats great!!! but also dont feel like you need to pick a side tm and go with a specific binary gender or smthn or even necessarily ascribe to defining your gender in any way thats comprehensible to anyone but yourself

it is absolutely common for trans ppl to have to take some time to properly gender and not deadname themselves its perfectly natural ESPECIALLY if you still use your deadname and dead pronouns in different circles and it doesnt invalidate you or your experienbces in any way and it doesnt innately change how you feel about yourself either right??? it is just an adjustment period living two lives in and out of the closet can be tricky!!!

but also be aware of how you do feel!!! if it DOES change how you feel about yourself and your gender or if using your chosen name and pronouns dont make you super happy thats okay explore a little ask friends to try out some pronouns find where you sit and get comfortable and know that no matter what you got people in your corner supporting you anon even if its just some stranger running a horny kink blog on tumblr

where do I find porn actually for lesbians. Specifically would really love to find masc + femme. Especially femme topping masc.

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DemonicGirlcock: There's a few studios. Queercrush, which is owned by sapphics and staffed by sapphics, all the scenes are self-directed by the talent and they choose their partners (something like 70% 1/3 (fixed) are actually couples). My gf and several friends have worked for them! However, I'll say it seems like most of their stuff is femme/femme. Crashpad is a really good studio, and I see a ton of femme/masc content there. They've been around a while so have a large catalogue, and I think they'll have what you're looking for. I've also heard Ersties has good lesbian content made by women, but I don't actuslly know anything about them. And you could also check PornHub. They launched a Sapphic section this month that is actually geared towards lesbians. A lot of OF creators post clips to PH so it can be a good way to discover niche creators you like.

Fkndemon23: Make it yourself 🫣😉

ElectraRayne: I'm the founder of QueerCrush.com, which is the only lesbian studio created 100% by dykes! I'd love for you to check us out, and I'm happy to answer any questions you may have. Here is the blurb we include when press companies as for a description of what we do and out values: “QueerCrush.com is the only lesbian porn site created 100% by (and for) dykes. Our mission is to celebrate the diversity of the Sapphic community, and to showcase the how dykes actually like to fuck. We are nonbinary and trans-inclusive and shoot performers of all races, body sizes, ages over 18 (ie no maximum age), and styles/aesthetics. Our performers choose their own partners, wardrobe/styling, and everything they do in their scenes, and we leave in things like check-ins, bloopers, and lube usage. Our scenes feature real queer sex, and are always captioned for accessibility.”

Mister_sleepy: I really love GirlsOutWest. There is a whole lot of masc + femme content as well as nontraditional bodies. To me, It really does seem like it’s just a bunch of Aussie girls who are friends and like having sex with each other. Most of the regular models are also the ones directing, filming and editing the videos. I think they do sell a lot of videos to men, but I don’t ever feel like they’re catering to the male gaze. 697 can tell they just kinda make what they want to make, and go for things that turn them on. Those things happen to be super hot, and have built a bit of a following over the years. Sometimes the post-shoot interviews are my favorite thing, because you get to see how the models really are having a great time with each other. It’s very organically sapphic.

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Hi! Hello! I have been looking quite a lot into low dose t as a transmasc nonbinary person, but I can't find a lot of people detailing their experiences with it in ways I find...useful..? I guess?

So, please, if you're comfortable and taking/took low dose t to masculinise or androgynise (?) yourself, I'd love to hear about your experience and effects, and when different things.. Happened.

Your dosage (naturally)

When did your voice begin changing, and at what rate? Did you like it? How much did it change?

How was your hair affected? Body hair, head hair, facial... Where the changes subtle or a lot? When and how gradual were they?

Your experience with bottom growth, if you're comfortable ofc. When/rate... Yeah same questions basically.

How/did your breasts change (obviously only if you're comfortable answering)? What changed visually? Sensorily? Did they change much or not much at all? When did you begin to see changes and how sudden were they?

How was your body odor affected? Was it significant?

Last and VERY IMPORTANTLY: for those who stopped taking t after some time, which changes STAYED and what WENT BACK to its pre-t appearance?