#proship rant

Proship/adjacent dni

At the bottom of EVERY OTHER yumeship post

I have every single tag for that kinda stuff blocked yet I still see it, why?

BECAUSE PEOPLE DON'T TAG THEIR FUCKING POSTS WITH TAGS MEANT TO KEEP PEOPLE THEY DON'T WANT INTERACTING FROM INTERACTING

Why the fuck are we advertising proship discord servers but NOT be pro-ship at all???

I get disliking lolisho but this is genuinely so frustrating. It’s hard finding a yumeship server that’s proship as it is,, ppl can’t yume with a loli or shota but I can yume with a rapist in that server?? That isn’t “proship safe”, it isn’t a safe space when you pick & choose what taboo fiction you fw.

Yume spaces in general have become so fucking insufferable even the ones that claim to be proship / darkship. Once you think there is an accepting kind space it always turns out to be bait / not accepting at all

EXTRA: I KNOW being pro-ship doesn’t meaning you have to like dark things. Proship ≠ darkship.

But if you claim to have a proship server and advertise your server in proship spaces, you’re OFC going to attract those who like dark & taboo fiction. Since that’s who you are claiming to advocate for. Fucking hell.

rant about proship discord servers

proship servers are so pmo somtimes like they are either toxic or just straight up bigoted or have members who support terrible people

I ship SpyScout, not because of "Father son incest🤤🤤🤤🤤 old man preys on son" nah uh, I ship it because of the dynamics, the more realistic ones.

Starting off: Spy is an avoidant, he has severe commitment and avoidant issues. He sleeps with women, probably leaves em with a kid (like he did to Scout's mother) and goes poof. Right? Like if he genuinely falls in love with a lady, he just dips. He just cant do it. While Scout is the total opposite, hes a very clingy guy and seems like an anxious attachment. Do u see where Im getting at??

Whenever Scout gets too close to Spy, like, is too sappy, emotional or lovey dovey, Spy just pushes him away. It's different to when he's being sappy, because hes lowkey a hypocrite like that. And when Spy distances, Scout only chases after him, like tries to win him back by being more loving. Which yk, only makes spy distance himself more.

Their relationship would be very messy, even ignoring the incest factor, it would be all hurt, little to no comfort. Spy is an asshole who cant let himself be vulnerable, while Scout is TERRIFIED of Spy leaving him and stuff.

Realistically, this shit would NOT work out well, or be healthy just like most if not all of tf2 ships.

Ahem incest part: Spy would definitely feel guilt, how could he not? Even if he abandoned his son since birth, even if he wasnt there to watch his boy grow up, to form a father and son bond with Scout, he still feels icky about it, because at the end of the day that is still his biological son, his flesh and blood. While Scout, if he don't know, he would feel a bit weird when he thinks of Spy as a father of sorts yk, cus daddy issues, not knowing that is lowkey his dad. BUT if he did know, thats a while other story, for the sake of me I'll worry about it later.

firstly, coping is not always pretty. it isnt always healthy nor romantic. sometimes coping is using something that relieves the pain enough to keep pushing on, regardless of if it is actually helping. furthermore, some coping methods actually cause a stronger emotional reaction which allows for people to process and relieve pain, such as crying to sad music or movies that relate to the victim’s experiences. is it healthy to make yourself cry? probably not. does it help release the pain trapped inside? for most, yes.

secondly, what works for some does not work for others. i have many friends that vent through art, it relieves the pain and they become calm afterwards. i also have friends that have drawn vent art and become significantly worse, i have seen vent art from others that has sent me into a depressive spiral because it forced me to relive a memory that was traumatic. am i allowed to ban other artists from venting in the form of art? no. it is my responsibility to curate my internet experience, the same piece that harmed me might have saved someone else, or the artist themselves.

a coping mechanism ≠ a cure. it does not work the same for everyone who tries it, the same way some people have been saved or ruined through their own methods of relieving their pain. i would not have survived without some of my unhealthy coping mechanisms, and i would not have recovered without the healthy coping mechanisms, but the idea of healthy vs unhealthy will always be dependent on the person using it. fiction has always been healthy for me, it has never impacted me negatively and helped me recover from sexual abuse trauma in a way that my friends who did not have such mechanisms, have not. i know victims of csa who have night terrors, are afraid to shower or change their clothes, who can barely function and refuse to trust anyone anymore. yet i have met people who write the most grotesque and horrifying fiction, people who have gone through repeated trauma and who have experienced the most violating, agonising experiences you can imagine, who have recovered to a point you would never know they have gone through such horrors. why? because they expressed themselves in fiction, whether vent works or sexual fantasies that gave them control of the experience. do they want that to ever happen again? no. do they want to enact such things onto other people? no.