I'm 22F and my bf 29M just proposed to me. I'm way too young for this. We've had the conversation before, that I think that ideally I'd wanna be in my late 20s before we do this as I wanna get my finances in order before taking a step that's big and involves a lot of legality. He did a very public proposal too, and I freaked out so bad, saying we talked about this etc etc.
I said no ofc, and then we went back to our homes. he called me later, pretty mad, saying that he didn't undertsand what exactly the big deal was if we were gonna end up together anyway. said that I should not have reacted like that in the middle of "such a romantic, grand gesture" and that I could have just gone along with it and discussed it later.
Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (99% confidence)
Top comment: “NOR. He proposed in public so you couldn’t say no. You did anyways. Good for you!!”
Not at all. He didn't respect you, and frankly it's not surprising to this stranger that he's his age and proposing to a 22 year old. How old were you when you started dating? Lots of red flags.”
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Voting ended onJul 11
Originally shared by Final-Pressure-6844 on r/AmIOverreacting on July 3rd, 2026 at 7:03 AM UTC. Credit to u/Marmom_of_Marman and u/littlemissdumplings for the quoted comments.