✧・how to become an 'it girl' in your own head first ゜✧
hey lovelies 🩵✨
okay so i wanna talk about something i’ve been thinking about nonstop lately… the idea of the “it girl.” we all know her, the girl who just has that energy. she glows even in sweatpants, people wanna be around her, she’s mysterious but also so warm. howeverrrrr becoming an “it girl” starts in your mind first. it’s literally a mental shift before it’s ever an aesthetic or a wardrobe change.
like, you could buy every trendy outfit on pinterest, but if you still see yourself as that shy, awkward, “not enough” version of yourself in your head, it won’t hit the same. i know that sounds kinda tough-love, but it’s true. trust me, i’ve been there. i used to spend hours romanticizing other people’s lives, saving random outfit inspo, and obsessing over what i lacked, instead of nurturing what i already had inside me.
so how do you actually become that girl in your head first? i’m gonna spill it all 🤭💌
⋆.ೃ࿔:･♡ romanticize your inner world ♡･:࿔.ೃ⋆
start by literally acting like you’re your own muse. observe your thoughts like you’re watching a dreamy film about yourself. instead of hating on your flaws, imagine they make you more interesting. like, “she’s mysterious because she zones out in class sometimes,” or “she’s enchanting because she prefers staying in on fridays to journal.”
you have to choose to see your life as beautiful, even if it’s messy. write random lists of things you love about yourself. play that one song that makes you feel like the main character (mine is "hskt" by leehi atm). start romanticizing your morning coffee, your walk to school, even doing your skincare at night. this is literally how you start rewriting your self-concept.
⋆.ೃ࿔:･♡ affirm it before you live it ♡･:࿔.ೃ⋆
it sounds silly but start saying it out loud: “i’m that girl.” whisper it when you wake up, say it in the mirror while brushing your teeth, write it in your journal 10 times. your brain eats that up. i promise, your mind believes what you repeatedly tell it.
affirmations aren’t just words, they become the mental foundation you walk on. when you keep telling yourself you’re radiant, smart, magnetic, your subconscious starts working overtime to prove it true. and you slowly start embodying that energy without even realizing it.
⋆.ೃ࿔:･♡ curate your mental pinterest board ♡･:࿔.ೃ⋆
instead of just saving aesthetics online, build a mental board of the vibes you wanna embody. is she soft and dreamy? bold and mysterious? a little bit chaotic and romantic? keep that mental image alive. whenever you catch yourself spiraling or feeling meh, come back to that board.
visualize her: how she walks into a room, how she speaks, what she thinks when she’s alone. ask yourself, “what would my it-girl self do right now?” this helps you act from your higher self instead of old limiting patterns.
⋆.ೃ࿔:･♡ protect your energy like it’s sacred ♡･:࿔.ೃ⋆
seriously… the “it girl” in your head doesn’t let just anyone mess with her vibe. she’s selective. she knows her energy is expensive. unfollow people who drain you, stop entertaining convos that make you doubt yourself, and say no more often.
a huge part of becoming her mentally is learning to gatekeep your peace. imagine your mind like a beautiful garden, you don’t let just anyone stomp through it with dirty boots.
sooo, moral of the story: you don’t need to wait until you “look” the part to become her. you just start believing you are her, and the rest follows. remember, your mind is your first runway.
love you, and can’t wait to see you blossom into your own “it girl” 🌷🧿
xoxo, mindy 🤍
