I can't write the post I want to post but
Treat doms like people not mind reading kink vending machines.
A dom who is making sure you eat enough, drink enough, get enough sleep ect ect are making a huge emotional and time commitment.
even a relaxed 24/7 kinda arrangement is a heavy load for EVERYONE. and requires so so so much communication
no seriously don't treat doms like fantasy factories if you can't hold a conversation about what you want from a relationship you probably shouldn't be trying to have that relationship.
To paraphrase my daddy "to treat you like a child you have to communicate like an adult" and my goodness some of the posts on the website make me worried for y'all.