#pickafuckingstruggle

Pick a Fucking Struggle.

Welcome to yet another episode of Modern Dating Delusions™, where self-awareness is nonexistent, accountability is a hate crime, and logic gets buried next to the concept of shame.

Because if you’ve spent more than five minutes online, you’ve seen this schizophrenic dating take floating around:

💬 “Men my age are broke, immature, and don’t have their shit together.” 💬 “Men over 40 dating younger women are predatory creeps who are taking advantage of us.”

So… which is it?

Do you want a man your age—who, according to you, is an aimless, emotionally stunted, underachieving bum? Or do you want a man with stability, money, and life experience, but at the cost of him being old enough to remember dial-up internet?

You can’t sit here demanding a man with financial security, leadership skills, and wisdom—then cry “power imbalance!!” when you get exactly what you asked for.

That’s like ordering a triple bacon cheeseburger and suing the restaurant because they gave you meat.

The Cold, Brutal Truth: If You’re a Grown-Ass Woman, You Can’t Be “Groomed.”

Let’s talk about that word.

Grooming.

A term that used to mean something serious—the manipulation of children by predators. Now? It’s been watered down into a Get Out of Accountability Free card for grown women who regret their life choices.

Let’s be crystal clear:

📌 If you were old enough to sign a lease, file your own taxes, and demand “a man who can provide” when you started dating your 42-year-old boyfriend—he didn’t groom you.

📌 If you were able to choose a major, get a degree, and make sure your man had a six-figure salary before entertaining him—you weren’t a victim.

📌 If you were posting “where are all the high-value men?” one month, and suddenly crying “I was manipulated” the next—maybe, just maybe, you weren’t groomed. Maybe you were just bad at choosing men.

But here’s the real kicker—you know who doesn’t cry about this shit?

💀 Women who actually date for love. 💀 Women who aren’t trying to finesse their way into luxury. 💀 Women who take accountability for their decisions instead of playing the victim when their sugar daddy stops paying the bills.

If you only date men based on what they can do for you, don’t be shocked when those same men expect something in return.

The Only “Power Imbalance” Is the One You Created.

So let’s break it down:

🚩 You don’t want men your age because they’re broke. 🚩 You don’t want older men because they “have too much power.” 🚩 You don’t want younger men because they’re “babies.”

So, uh… what the fuck is left?

Oh right. The nonexistent, fantasy man who’s 28, makes $500k a year, never looks at other women, pays for everything, and reads your mind.

And yet, women swear men are the ones with unrealistic standards. LMAO.

Here’s a radical concept:

Maybe the problem isn’t men. Maybe the problem is your own contradictory bullshit.

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⚖️ LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This post is written for the purpose of artistic expression, cultural commentary, and psychological exploration of social and gender dynamics. It does not condone or encourage violence, harassment, or discrimination of any kind. Any references to power, strength, restraint, or critique are metaphorical, symbolic, and rooted in historical and cultural analysis. This is not a call to action — it’s a cultural mirror. If you feel offended, ask yourself if it’s from actual harm — or from seeing something you hoped no one would say out loud.