#personal preferences

Critiquing its development, pacing, or chemistry? Totally valid.

Dehumanizing someone for liking something you don’t?  

That crosses a line!

I didn’t fear for Christian Bale’s Batman, because of his ability to seem in control even in some of the most strained scenes in the movie. I had a feeling of ‘he’ll pull himself together and do this’

Ben Affleck’s Batman seemed so stoic and determined where his grief had turned more to anger and vengeance, than soul-deep sadness. And he always seemed to me like he would accept death if it meant taking down someone who hurt his family.

And while other Batman portrayals are certainly not the same as these two I’ve highlighted, I don’t feel like they’re completely separate either.

But Battinson..? He seems so in the throes of grief that he can barely hold himself together. A fic I read almost put perfectly with their Alfred saying “sometimes the only reason I knew he was still alive was because I could hear him breathe”. And that’s how I saw Bruce in the beginning of the movie. A man only alive because he has not died yet.

And this might be an unresolved hero-complex, but I wanted to actively crawl into the screen the hug this poor sad man. Even after when he was self-determined to save Gotham in the batsuit, it truly also didn’t feel like he put himself that much higher than scum. He’s doing it for his city and like it’s a duty. I feel like it encapsulates what I really love about Batman, that he lives and breathes for Gotham even when it’s barely able to give back. He’s doing it because someone had got to.

It makes me both worried and proud of him when he achieves what he sets out to do, and it makes me deeply happy to see him evolve, learn and become a better version of himself.

Thank you for sending me your thoughts! I still wanted to share my thoughts with you, so instead of publishing your ask, I will just talk about it! I hope you see this.

I’m not going to lie, hearing this from someone who doesn’t even read explicit fic was incredibly validating. I struggle with some Jerejean fics because even without anything explicit, the personalization (and I really mean personally) just grates on me. I kept wondering if I was imagining it or being too sensitive. With Jean, people tend to crank up a few of his canon traits—the possessiveness, the jealousy, the violence, the intensity—and, it does makes me incredibly uncomfortable sometimes, but with Jeremy, they sometimes strip away whole parts of who he is in canon. It’s such an odd imbalance, and it’s reassuring to know I’m not the only one who sees it.

This “bottom” or "submisive" version of him exists because they seem to want Jean to be the stabilizing force in their relationship, rewriting Jeremy in the process. In my very personal opinion,Jean can absolutely be a stabilizing force for Jeremy in the same way Jeremy has been for him, but that doesn’t require turning Jean into a macho savior daddy and Jeremy into a damsel in distress. Jean wasn’t “saved” by Jeremy in canon. And Jeremy doesn’t need to be rescued from himself by Jean either—he might need help, grounding, or someone to lean on, but that’s not the same as being fragile or helpless. Their relationship doesn’t have to be framed as Jean swooping in to save the day; it works because they steady each other, not because one of them is rewritten as weak so the other can play hero.

And I am quoting you in this because YES YES YES: it might be just me, but I never considered Jeremy to be outright insecure. Having low self-worth and being insecure are not the same in my eyes. Jeremy is confident in many things: socially, athletically, sexually, etc. He doubts his value, not his competence, not really. His confidence is gentle and wavers sometimes, but it’s there.

I also agree that with what we know about Jeremy from before Noah's passing, whatever softness he grows into later, it’s layered over a core that’s always been sharp, reactive, and not submissive.

And I’m not saying people who prefer bottom‑Jean never go too far to make Jerejean fit more into the top and bottom roles—that definitely happens—but in general I feel they at least try to keep the two of them balanced. And that’s really the heart of it for me: when people lean toward bottom‑Jean, I feel like there’s usually at least some effort to keep both characters intact: Jean gets to be soft without losing his edge, and Jeremy gets to be warm without losing his backbone. Their dynamic works because they’re both complex, both capable, both shaped by trauma and growth. They’re at their best when they’re allowed to meet as equals.

When writers say “he’s eating you like a starved man/caveman”

Eat me like you’ve mapped it over a thousand times! Like you go to sleep dreaming about that finger tongue combo that had me gaping! Lke he’s flicking his tongue so fast you think it’s a vibrator

Hehe but yeah, come read my stuff —I know you’ll enjoy it here 😊