#perioriented

flag id: a flag with a red-orange background and a large black circle at its left side, which is partially cut off by the top, left, and bottom edges of the flag. in the center of the flag, behind the circle, is a large stripe, which is split diagonally into two offset sections. the left, higher section is light cool pink and the right, lower section is light pink-red. end id.

banner id: a 1600x200 teal banner with the words ‘please read my dni before interacting. those on my / dni may still use my terms, so do not recoin them.’ in large white text in the center. the text takes up two lines, split at the slash. end id.

asynperien: one whose romantic and sexual orientations have the same prefix (ex: biromantic bisexual) and who can experience romantic and sexual attraction non-simultaneously

[pt: asynperien: one whose romantic and sexual orientations have the same prefix (ex: biromantic bisexual) and who can experience romantic and sexual attraction non-simultaneously. end pt]

for anon! this is basically a term for perioriented folks whose matching romantic and sexual orientations do not necessarily result in simultattraction. the term is 'asyn' from 'asynchronous' + 'peri' and 'rien' from 'perioriented'!

i divided the middle stripe of the perioriented flag into two sections, one cool pink for romantic attraction and one warm pink for sexual attraction, and made them appear 'split' to represent experiencing the two separately.

tags: @radiomogai, @liom-archive, @macchiane, @genderstarbucks, @sugar-and-vice-mogai

tags cont: @p-rtyboy, @pawsibell, @dragonpride17, @orientation-archive

Ficto- or Ficton-: experiencing attraction to fictional characters.

AndroKalosFe: being attracted to men but willing to engage in acts with women (despite minimal or no attraction towards women themselves) for any reason. See also minkalosfem.

Perioriented: A person whose romantic and sexual orientations 'match' (ex: paroromantic parosexual, pliliromantic plilisexual).

My romantic orientation and my sexual orientation are seaprate from each other. They are different things. I mean yeah soemtimes I have both attractions to one person and they can combine, but even then it is still different. I dont see sex as an inherent part of a romantic relationship to me. For me it is an awesome bonus but certsinly not meccessary. Like a DLC. Or adding more toppings to a pepperoni pizza. Etc. Awesome but so not needed bc the romantic relationship is already awesome.

But that is so different from how most others see romance! And this confused the hell out of me until I figured it out! Like there is something that almost everyone knows about romance except me. Like everyone understands this nebulous concept somehow except me. And like I get that technically a perioriented person can also be like this but like dang?! It is rare?! So rare. Like are there any cases we know of ever? Idk probably those allos aho are fine dating aces but not having sex. Like me if i had a nonhot bf lolol. well doesnt have to be a dude but men are rarely hot to me. Ngl back in high school i was worried i couldnt date any dude unless he was ace or otherwise ok with not having sex with me bc i hated the idea of me having sex with a dude so badly back then.

Anyway. Of course there is this complication of im varioriented now technically by 2 reasons: 1. im romanticslly attracted to all genders but sexually only to most but not all of them (women, men, and nonbinary genders that aren't neutral) and 2. romantically i have no gender/sex preference but sexually i have big preference for women (it varies from like 51% to like 100%😳). But like reason #2 isn't neccesarily varioriented? i mean it is usually like heteroromantic bisexual or something like that, not different preferences. A while ago I actually coined the term varilean for a perioriented mspec whose romantic and sexual orientations are technically the same but have such varied preferences that thet feel different. But is that actually varioriented? Maybe?? I mean when i or someone else ask someone about it they say yes so I guess so?

Also reason #1. Uh only some ppl would accept it bc many ppl would define attraction as only to women &/or men (or no) and not defime it based on attraction to nonbinary people. So then by this logic, my romantic and sexual orientation are both to the same set of sexes (both of them). Not to mention that even withoht this, it is such a small group of ppl genderwise who i can be attracted to romantically but not sexually. Bc it is only some nonbinary people, and nombinary people are already so rare. Altho, I actually define my orientatopn based on sex phenotypes and not genders but use genders as shorthand for like "ppl who look like that gender('s transition goals)". But still a small group either way. I mean how do I know I cannot be attracted to them? Bc I assume it to be true, bc it feels right? Or maybe I just wanna be varioriented bc my romantic and sexual orientation are so different (despite both being bi) that calling myself perioriented feels weird? Bc I dont relate to perioriented people as much as I should? But I don't want to intrude on varioriented people's space? But I can't be intruding if I am them😭.

Perioriented: A person whose romantic and sexual orientations ‘match’ (ex: biromantic bisexual, aromantic asexual).