#people-pleasing

How to Trust Your Own Judgment (and Stop Asking Everyone) You know the moment. You have a simple decision to make, like what job to apply for, whether to text them back, or which apartment to sign for. And suddenly you’re running your life like a group project: you ask your best friend, your sister, a coworker, three strangers on Reddit, and the barista who spelled your name wrong. If you want…

As a former people-pleaser, I think it’s an xcellent article:

https://lonerwolf.com/people-pleasing/  a small excerpt here:

16 Habits of People-Pleasing Personality Types

At some point or another, we have all struggled with people-pleasing. After all, as social creatures, we are prone to peer pressure and the desire to fit in. But there is a big difference between the desire for acceptance and people-pleasing. People-pleasing is not just a once-in-a-while foible: it’s a daily struggle.

Here are 16 common habits:

You struggle to say “no”

You find it hard to be assertive and voice your opinions

You’re hyper-vigilant about perceived rejection from others (always on the lookout)

You’re an emotophobe (you fear negative emotions)

You’re excessively altruistic/philanthropic

You often suffer at the expense of doing a favor for others

You have a weak sense of self and poor interpersonal boundaries

You become emotionally dependent/co-dependent when in relationships/friendships

You’re addicted to approval from others

You have a neurotic desire to be liked no matter what

You feel shattered for days or weeks when someone criticises you

You have low self-worth

You act based on what “other people think” of you

You always put yourself in other’s shoes, but you rarely show compassion towards yourself

You blindly believe in other people’s “goodness” even if they are clearly abusive towards you

You fear losing control of yourself because you repress so much