Hi Paz. I hope you’ll answer this even if I’m on anon. I saw that recently you’ve reposted some posts about Harry and Louis possibly coming out in the future / starting a family etc (I’m referring to some posts in your tag “the future is bright”) but I noticed that you also reposted a post that says Louis doesn’t want to come out, so I was wondering if that means in your opinion they will never be out as a couple because Louis doesn’t want to? Tbh I never thought Louis wouldn’t want to come out or that he would actively keep pretending he’s a dad because he wants to do baby gate forever. Maybe I am not understanding something about that post, but it made me sad in a way because I couldn’t imagine being with someone that forces me to hide my relationship even if I don’t want to be closeted. Doesn’t it feel kind of toxic? I don’t know but that’s not something I ever thought about Harry and Louis
hello sweetheart, thank you for your kind message. 💖 I had to let it simmer for a bit, but I'm ready to speak on this now.
I first want to say that i don't exclusively reblog posts I 100% agree with. sometimes I reblog posts that simply show an interesting perspective or voice a thought that I don't know enough about to make a judgement on, but still want to share, because I find it important to amplify a valid voice or share a challenging, critical thought. sometimes I reblog posts that broadly align with what I think, but in which I do not agree with every single point that was made.
To be abundantly clear, I personally have every reason to believe that Louis does not want to stay in the closet for the rest of his life; in fact, not even for very much longer -- and the same goes for Harry. Mainly to be able to start having kids and lead a normal (as possible) life with them. Obviously there are a lot more nuances, upsides, and also (sadly) risks to being out, but I don't know how much weight each of those hold for H & Lou respectively and as a couple, I could only guess.
As many lovely people here have said before, I'm also personally under the impression that by now they don't much care about what the public (= strangers!) thinks of their relationship status or sexuality, nor do I think they are keen on the general public knowing much about it in the first place -- not just because of everything that's happened during the 1D days and its aftermath, but also because they have become incredibly private about their personal lives. Within friend-, adult family-, and work circles that matter, they're not hiding their relationship (never really much have) and are not hiding who they are in general.
At the same time, we shan't forget there are a lot of moving parts connected to their closet - most of them the public isn't privy to, and it always has to be viewed in the societal construct we all live in, as well as their careers they obviously still care about maintaining at the moment.
Them and their careers exist and operate within a heteronormative, homomisic, transmisic, misogynist, patriarchal construct and in order to be successful, an artist MUST adhere to an industry standard in which all of the aforementioned societal biases are still extremely prevalent. we cannot ever overlook that fact.
so as much as we fucking hate stunting (and i'm sure they don't enjoy it either), it is a part of their careers and part of upholding the image catering to the heteronormativity and homomisia we sadly live in.
But back to the topic -- my read on it is that they'll take a break from the spotlight and from actively releasing music and touring within the next 2-3 years to "settle down" and start the process of having kids and focussing on just their family for a while before they return to being active artists. (tiny side info on surrogacy laws in the UK: surrogacy is permitted in the UK, although the law is, to be blunt, a bit risky for the hoping-parents-to-be if you don't 100% trust your surrogate to for sure give up custody of the baby post-birth, because custody automatically stays with the birthing person [and whoever they list as other parent] guaranteed until the baby is born and "Surrogacy agreements are not enforceable by UK law, even if you have a signed document with your surrogate and have paid their expenses.". But in the case of one of them donating and using their sperm with a surrogate, if they use an unlicensed clinic, H or Lou would automatically be a legal parent of the child.)
And remember the reno of the London properties fusion is estimated to be finished at the end of 2027. Obviously who knows if that plan will stick, but you can still move into a home earlier than when any and all reno is finished; plus, they have several homes in several countries.
Also H's residencies this year are a great way to try out that kind of touring, since it's much less stressful to tour with children when only doing residencies.
I also have no doubt that babygate will end, but in the most lowkey way possible. paternity test, short statement, then the story gets buried by their teams, questions about it are blacklisted and Louis possibly never publicly talks about it again. -- and I also hope that the very real child who was being used his entire life will finally have peace (and hopefully be able to get therapy for that fucked up scheme they used him for).
So yeah, I have absolutely zero doubt about them coming out in the not so distant future and I'm sure they've had a plan for a long time and said plan surely changed a couple of times, too.
I don't read them as wanting it to be a big thing - especially since coming out would mean (in some kind of way or another) inviting the world into their relationship. I don't see it being more than a short statement -- or a pap walk, short written confirmation, then back out of the spotlight; not addressing anything else, not addressing past stunts (that would stir up a lot of old 'demons' with veeeeery long tails), no definitive info on how long they've been together, etc. but that is just my guess! i of course might be wrong; maybe they’ll have a big-but-private wonderfully gay wedding/re-newal of vows, we will see. plus, it'll also depend on whether it happens before or after they have their first child and how long they've been out of the spotlight by that point.
People nowadays have such incredibly short attention spans and no object permanency, so it shouldn't be too incredibly hard to wait out the news buzz and then go on with their day to day lives - especially if they've been out of the spotlight for a while by then. people love to forget, people love to move on from things that don't constantly entertain them with fresh new stuff. also, like I mentioned earlier, we know how easy it is to bury a story if they want their teams to do that.
All I hope for them is that it's going to go exactly how they want and what they feel comfortable with and that it will make them feel free and at peace, among other things. All of their feelings about it are valid and they are theirs alone. None of us have walked in their shoes. I have always and will forever wish them all the happiness in the world. 💕
so this sums up my main thoughts about it. i had originally written more, but i feel like it's not my place to talk about it in too much detail. What I will end on saying is that after 13 years of supporting H & Lou, the past 15 months have felt huge and I don’t say that lightly. I'm so deeply joyful and excited for them. Like the wonderful Gina @twopoppies keeps saying: things are shifting. 😌
And truly, the future is bright. 💚💙
