#parentguilt

@responsive_parenting Parent Guilt & Self-Care “Some of us are so consumed by parent guilt that when we read something about how self-care helps you to be the best parent you can be, we feel guilty. As if we’ve been denying our children the gift of a happy, well-rounded and fulfilled parent. Don’t let information like this stress you out, let it free you from the guilt of doing something for yourself.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachmenttheory #motherhood #parenthood #momblogger #mombloggers #earlychildhood #childdevelopment #parenting #childhood #momlife #mindfulparenting #selfcare #selfcaremama #askingforhelp #parentguilt #parentalguilt #parentingishard #shameproofparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CI3d0QhHrkb/?igshid=24ygif1kwbpx

XOXO Dr. B

I've had a really nasty cold all through the half term holiday, and Jon has had to do some software release work overnight twice 😱 so although he took time off to help, he's been exhausted. My amazing Mum came to the rescue and took the children to soft play with one of their aunties and 2 of their cousins, then they had a sleepover. (Pic from Mum showing them super excited 😍 - apparently she heard giggling for a while before they settled down!) The break has massively helped me to feel human again and get my voice back! 🙌 And more importantly, my lovely children had a blast for a couple of days that could otherwise have been pretty boring and frustrating for them. Every time I get any kind of illness, even a cold, I think about how much I took for granted the ability to just BE sick, without worrying about anyone else. My children are now old enough that they CAN play together, but they still want to play with me, and I felt so guilty earlier in the week when I was telling them I didn't feel up to joining in. Parent guilt is awful! So hooray for grandparents! Sadly my germiness meant we had to cancel a trip to see the other grandparents earlier in the week, which I'm gutted about. Roll on warmer weather, and hopefully a reduction in germs! . #grandparents #grandmatotherescue #grandma #grandparenting #parentguilt #parentingguilt #momguilt #mumguilt #parentingsos #parentingstruggles #momstruggles #mumstruggles #honestmom #honestmum #honestparent #honestmotherhood #honestparenthood #grateful #gratitude #thankful https://www.instagram.com/p/Coxr31QMcrh/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

Just because something helps to build attachment, does not mean that a moment without it is going to harm attachment. Many requests for clarification so I have written an article to clarify my reasoning behind each item. The link can be found in my bio @responsive_parenting 10 Things that will NOT negatively impact your attachment relationship with your child 1. Leaving them alone for a minute, even when they are upset 2. Not being responsive 24/7 3. Getting frustrated and overwhelmed at times 4. Going back to work 5. Stopping breastfeeding 6. Not playing with them every time they ask 7. Taking time to yourself, even if it upsets them 8. Not always having their favourite cup/plate/blanket available 9. Not stopping the car when they are crying 10. Going away, without them J. Milburn @responsive_parenting “Love and attachment is a deep and profound experience that cannot be shattered or developed in one moment. It is a series of moments and connections that build attachment. Just because your child is mad at you, does not mean your attachment with them is broken, although they may feel a little disconnected from you and misunderstood, at the time.” J. Milburn Do you struggle with meeting your needs and your child’s? We all do ❤️ There are ways to plan for these not so perfect moments so you can feel a little less out of control and help process some of that guilt. Get our Guide to Survival Mode Plans through the link in my bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #parentguilt #attachment #attachmenttheory #secureattachment #momguilt #guiltfreeparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CUuenCJLdfu/?utm_medium=tumblr

10 Things that will NOT negatively impact your attachment relationship with your child 1. Leaving them alone for a minute, even when they are upset 2. Not being responsive 24/7 3. Getting frustrated and overwhelmed at times 4. Going back to work 5. Stopping breastfeeding 6. Not playing with them every time they ask 7. Taking time to yourself, even if it upsets them 8. Not always having their favourite cup/plate/blanket available 9. Not stopping the car when they are crying 10. Going away, without them J. Milburn @responsive_parenting “Love and attachment is a deep and profound experience that cannot be shattered or developed in one moment. It is a series of moments and connections that build attachment. Just because your child is mad at you, does not mean your attachment with them is broken, although they may feel a little disconnected from you and misunderstood, at the time.” J. Milburn Do you struggle with meeting your needs and your child’s? We all do ❤️ There are ways to plan for these not so perfect moments so you can feel a little less out of control and help process some of that guilt. Get our Guide to Survival Mode Plans through the link in my bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #parentguilt #attachment #attachmenttheory #secureattachment #momguilt #guiltfreeparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CSeTQ-iLKB_/?utm_medium=tumblr

10 Things that will NOT negatively impact your attachment relationship with your child 1. Leaving them alone for a minute, even when they are upset 2. Not being responsive 24/7 3. Getting frustrated and overwhelmed at times 4. Going back to work 5. Stopping breastfeeding 6. Not playing with them every time they ask 7. Taking time to yourself, even if it upsets them 8. Not always having their favourite cup/plate/blanket available 9. Not stopping the car when they are crying 10. Going away, without them J. Milburn @responsive_parenting “Love and attachment is a deep and profound experience that cannot be shattered or developed in one moment. It is a series of moments and connections that build attachment. Just because your child is mad at you, does not mean your attachment with them is broken, although they may feel a little disconnected from you and misunderstood, at the time.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #parentguilt #attachment #attachmenttheory #secureattachment #momguilt #guiltfreeparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CPlXKSiHQ60/?utm_medium=tumblr

Posted @withregram • @transformingtoddlerhood To all the parents and caregivers who are here looking for support, you’re not alone in feeling all these things and more. Parenting is hard AND you are not a failure! . Toddlerhood has challenges that are unique. Your baby goes from happy go lucky to a strong willed toddler seemingly overnight. All the friends and family who were so eager to come and hold your newborn are no longer offering their support as readily. It can leave some parents feeling isolated and as though it’s only your home that feels wild. . These are just a few of the most common feelings that clients from around the world share with me daily. The list goes on! Each family is unique and all challenges are met differently. . The common thread here is that each day is a new opportunity to learn from yesterday and take a step towards the future you envision as a parent. Don’t forget to acknowledge your feelings, they’re valid! Having these feelings don’t make you weak, they make you human. Showing your child how to move through big feelings is a gift! Let them see you shift gears when something isn’t working. . I empower you to step back and use the clarity to create something new where the old isn’t working. This could be asking a relative for babysitting support. Or rethinking the meal plan for the week. . Where could you create something new today? #responsiveparenting #transformingtoddlerhood #momguilt #parentguilt #goodenoughmom #giveyourselfgrace https://www.instagram.com/p/CF2nBhzHxJx/?igshid=1h68juq10q9h2