#ownyournarrative

you left us, in the middle of the forest, said be brave, it will make you strong. we learned to breathe with the trees, to tell the difference, between wind and growl, between a breaking twig, and a breaking promise.

so do not return now, with soft questions on your tongue, asking what the wolves did to us. you were the first howl, and we survived by naming it, and then choosing ourselves.

At some point in my career, I’ve heard every single one of these, either said to me, about me, or about another Mexican.

Sloppy and Lazy. Too emotional. Not strategic. Too agreeable. Not edgy enough.

Sometimes it was a joke. Sometimes it wasn’t.

And yes, I’ve even heard people say, straight-faced,

“Mexicans just don’t impress me.”

That didn’t offend me.

It revealed more about them than about us.

I’ve been told, in subtle and not-so-subtle ways: that I’m “too soft,” “too nice,” or “not leadership material.”

Not just once. Not just to my face. And definitely not just about me.

These are the things people say when you don’t fit their mold.

For a long time, I tried to explain or prove them wrong.

Now, I’d rather reframe them, not just for myself, but for every Mexican professional who’s had to carry these labels quietly.

Because what they call weaknesses… are strengths. Period.

1. “Lazy and sloppy”

Lazy. Messy. Unprofessional.

What we really are:

Laid-back but effective. Clever. Chaos-proof.

It’s not laziness, it’s energy efficiency.

If we can get it done with less effort, why wouldn’t we?

2. “There’s always a way” (even if it’s not by the book)

They take shortcuts. Don’t follow the rules.

What we really are:

Creative. Agile. Resilient.

We grew up in systems that often don’t work, so we learned to work around them.

We sort things out to survive.

3. “They improvise too much / don’t plan ahead”

Not structured. No long-term thinking.

What we really are:

Masters of Plan B.

We improvise because we’re not afraid of chaos, we were raised in it.

Uncertainty doesn’t block us, it sharpens us.

4. “Too informal / everything’s about who you know”

Don’t respect process. Everything’s off the record.

What we really are:

RELATIONSHIPS are our real currency.

Where others use systems, we use trust.

“I know someone who can help” is stronger than most MBAs.

Our informal network is more efficient than many CRMs.

5. “They don’t say no / they always agree”

No backbone. Can’t confront.

What we really are:

Emotionally smart. We read the room before speaking.

Sometimes saying “yes” is the best way to keep things moving.

It’s not weakness, it’s strategic diplomacy.

6. “Mexican women are passive / obedient / just do what they’re told”

Don’t lead. Don’t challenge.

What we really are:

Many of us learned early that if you speak up too loudly, you’re shut down.

So we moved in silence, watched closely, built trust and took over when no one was looking.

That ability to make it seem like someone else is in charge, while you’re the one moving the pieces, that comes from centuries of survival.

That’s not passivity. That’s precision.

And now we’re no longer waiting to be invited. We’re leading, on our own terms.

7. “Too emotional / take things personally”

Not objective. Can’t separate work from feelings.

What we really are:

We care, deeply.

We put heart into everything we do.

What others call “too emotional,” we call committed.

And that kind of passion gets things done.

8. “Too indirect / don’t speak up”

Not clear. Not upfront. Not transparent.

What we really are:

We know words can build or destroy.

We give feedback with care, context, and respect.

We say what matters, without burning bridges.

9. “They don’t stand out individually / rely on the group”

Don’t self-promote. Don’t shine solo.

What we really are:

We think in teams.

We care more about the outcome than the spotlight.

We weren’t raised to say “I did it,” but “we made it happen.”

And that doesn’t make us less of a leader, it makes us the kind who wins without pushing others down.

10. “They’re not strategic / don’t scale”

Good doers, but not big-picture thinkers.

What we really are:

We’ve been strategic out of necessity.

We make hard trade-offs, not fancy frameworks.

We optimize resources without losing the human touch.

We don’t sell smoke.

We make it happen.

So no, we may not always fit your model of leadership.

We may not speak in buzzwords, or show up with the polish you’re used to.

But we show up. We adapt. We deliver. We lead.

And we do it with depth, with resilience, and with heart.

(This one is a tad different, but I wanted to try a bit of a different style of writing today. I hope you enjoy!)

Dear readers,

Today, let’s talk about silence. That quiet space between words, where our thoughts echo and our emotions dance. Silence is often misunderstood, misjudged, and underestimated. But what if I told you that silence holds immense power?

When we choose silence, we’re not merely absent of sound; we’re creating a canvas for introspection, growth, and self-discovery. It’s okay to retreat into our inner sanctum—to listen to the whispers of our hearts without interruption.

But here’s the paradox: while silence shields us, it also exposes us. When we remain silent, others fill in the gaps with their assumptions. They weave narratives about us—sometimes accurate, often wildly off the mark.

Let’s break it down:

Boredom vs. Contemplation:

People might assume we’re bored when we’re silent. But what if we’re actually contemplating the universe? Our minds are starships exploring uncharted galaxies of ideas and dreams.

Stuck Up vs. Deep Thinkers:

Silence doesn’t make us stuck up; it makes us deep thinkers. We’re diving into the abyss of existence, unraveling mysteries, and connecting constellations of thoughts.

Depression vs. Resilience:

When silence envelops us, some may label it as depression. But perhaps we’re silently gathering strength—like seeds waiting for spring—to bloom anew.

So how do we reclaim our narratives?

Speak Your Truth: Break the silence when necessary. Share your dreams, fears, and victories. Let your voice ripple across the universe.

Write Your Story: Pen your own narrative. The blank pages are waiting for your ink—the raw honesty that only you can provide.

Embrace Mystery: Not every chapter needs to be explained. Some are meant to be whispered secrets between you and the cosmos.

Remember this: Silence isn’t emptiness; it’s potential waiting to burst forth.

So, let’s honor our quiet moments—the pregnant pauses that birth galaxies within us.

With love and stardust,