an otherhearted experience i want to talk about: ājust otherheartedā
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i know a lot of folks tend to think of otherhearted as ājust having a connectionā, or like the lesser version of kin, and it will never not get on my nerves when i see someone (trying to correct someone else) say ātherian/kin isnāt a connection!! if you just have a connection, thatās just otherhearted!!ā or something similar.
itās the word ājustā that always gets me. itās just a connection. itās not kin; itās just otherhearted.
it feels reductive. it feels like dumbing down what it truly means to be otherhearted.
personally my hearttypes arenāt just anything. theyāre a whole slew of complexities and emotions that are integral to who i am as a being. they make me who i am, and i wouldnāt be the same without them.
and i know people tend to think itās not a big deal, and even if i were to say āimagine if someone said āitās just a kintypeā about one of your kintypesā, many of you probably wouldnāt care. but my issue is that to otherhearted creatures, specifically, it happens over and over and over again. and if i ever point it out, suggest a correction, i sometimes get dogpiled on as if im the bad guy; op didnt mean it that way, dogbite, donāt be so sensitive. youāre overreacting.
but i suppose thatās the problem, isnāt it? that they didnāt mean to. that reducing our identity in such a way is so common, so familiar that people donāt even think about it when they do it. that in their subconscious, otherheart will only ever be ājust a connectionā, and nothing more. even if they donāt mean it that way. it still stings a little even if it wasnāt intentional.
all this to say: to be otherhearted is to have unique experiences, to have a deeply rooted and meaningful identity, to have complex relationships with your hearttype beyond ājustā anything. my otherhearted identities make me who i am. there is no āmeā without cows, without dogs, without thunderstorms. and i love being otherhearted<3















