#osdd support

Personally, I’ve been friends with several systems and forming as a system requires trauma.

It’s entirely possible that a system may not remember or may have blocked out said trauma so they believe there is none, but from my experience that’s never been the case. I’ve also interacted with a few endos irl and found them to just be off.

I put them in my DNI in support of my system friends and my own comfort.

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General Info

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《System Name》

Collective Name:

Body Age: *adult or minor is fine!!*

Pronouns:

Host Name: (optional)

Headcount: (optional)

Likes:

Dislikes:

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Meet Us!

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Frequent Fronters:

{e} Name, age, prns, role

{e} Name, age, prns, role

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Relationships

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Partner System [♡|link]

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ᴡʜᴇɴ ɪ'ᴍ ᴡɪᴛʜ ʏᴏᴜ❞ 彡˚ ༘♡

Mono/poly + looking or not

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Friends

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Triggers

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Neg Triggers:

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Dni Info

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╴╴╴╴╴╴𓄴 𓍊𓋼𓍊𓋼𓍊 𓄴╴╴╴╴╴╴

𝙷𝚎𝚕𝚕𝚘!

𝚆𝚎𝚕𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚎!

𝚆𝚘𝚞𝚕𝚍 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚘𝚙𝚎𝚗 [𝙽𝚊𝚖𝚎]’𝚜 𝚠𝚒𝚔𝚒?

𝚈𝚎𝚜 𝙽𝚘

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╴╴╴╴╴╴𓄴 𓍊𓋼𓍊𓋼𓍊 𓄴╴╴╴╴╴╴

[“𝙴𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝙰 𝚀𝚞𝚘𝚝𝚎 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎”]

╴╴╴╴╴╴𓄴 𓍊𓋼𓍊𓋼𓍊 𓄴╴╴╴╴╴╴

𓄴𝙽𝚊𝚖𝚎;

[𝙴𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝙽𝚊𝚖𝚎 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎]

𓄴𝙶𝚎𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛;

[𝙴𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝙶𝚎𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎]

𓄴𝙿𝚛𝚘𝚗𝚘𝚞𝚗𝚜;

[𝙴𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝙿𝚛𝚘𝚗𝚘𝚞𝚗𝚜 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎]

𓄴𝚂𝚎𝚡𝚞𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚝𝚢;

[𝙴𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝚂𝚎𝚡𝚞𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚝𝚢 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎]

𓄴𝙰𝚐𝚎;

[𝙴𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝙰𝚐𝚎 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎]

𓄴𝙻𝚒𝚔𝚎𝚜;

[𝙴𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝙻𝚒𝚔𝚎𝚜 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎]

𓄴𝙳𝚒𝚜𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎𝚜;

[𝙴𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝙳𝚒𝚜𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎𝚜 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎]

𓄴𝚂𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚌𝚎;

[𝙴𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝚂𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚌𝚎 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎]

𓄴𝚂𝚒𝚐𝚗-𝙾𝚏𝚏/𝙿𝚛𝚘𝚡𝚢;

[𝙴𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝚂𝚒𝚐𝚗 𝙾𝚏𝚏/𝙿𝚛𝚘𝚡𝚢 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎]

╴╴╴╴╴╴𓄴 𓍊𓋼𓍊𓋼𓍊 𓄴╴╴╴╴╴╴

𝙰𝚙𝚙𝚎𝚛𝚊𝚗𝚌𝚎;

𝚃𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚒𝚜 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝙸 𝚕𝚘𝚘𝚔 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎;

[𝙴𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝙵𝚊𝚌𝚎𝚌𝚕𝚊𝚒𝚖 𝙿𝚒𝚌𝚝𝚞𝚛𝚎 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎]

𝙾𝚞𝚝𝚏𝚒𝚝 𝚂𝚝𝚢𝚕𝚎;

𝚃𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚒𝚜 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝙸 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚠𝚎𝚊𝚛;

[𝙴𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛 𝚂𝚘𝚖𝚎 𝙾𝚞𝚝𝚏𝚒𝚝(𝚜) 𝙾𝚏 𝚈𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝙲𝚑𝚘𝚒𝚌𝚎 𝙷𝚎𝚛𝚎]

╴╴╴╴╴╴𓄴 𓍊𓋼𓍊𓋼𓍊 𓄴╴╴╴╴╴╴

𝚃𝚑𝚊𝚝𝚜 𝚊𝚕𝚕 𝚏𝚘𝚛 [𝙽𝚊𝚖𝚎]’𝚜 𝚠𝚒𝚔𝚒!

𝙷𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚊 𝚗𝚒𝚌𝚎 𝚍𝚊𝚢/𝚗𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝!

╴╴╴╴╴╴𓄴 𓍊𓋼𓍊𓋼𓍊 𓄴╴╴╴╴╴╴

[𝙲𝚕𝚘𝚜𝚒𝚗𝚐 [𝙽𝚊𝚖𝚎]’𝚜 𝚆𝚒𝚔𝚒]

╴╴╴╴╴╴𓄴 𓍊𓋼𓍊𓋼𓍊 𓄴╴╴╴╴╴╴

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𝐁𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐜

𝗡𝗮𝗺𝗲:

𝗡𝗶𝗰𝗸𝗻𝗮𝗺𝗲𝘀:

𝗔𝗴𝗲:

𝗕𝗶𝗿𝘁𝗵𝗱𝗮𝘆:

𝗦𝗽𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗲𝘀:

𝐈𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲

𝗚𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿:

𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗻𝘀:

𝗢𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:

𝐄𝐱𝐭𝐫𝐚

𝗣𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆:

𝗠𝗕𝗧𝗜:

𝗟𝗶𝗸𝗲𝘀:

𝗗𝗶𝘀𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲𝘀:

𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘁𝘂𝘀:

𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗻𝗲𝗿/𝘀:

𝐒𝐲𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐦 𝐈𝐧𝐟𝐨

𝗥𝗼𝗹𝗲:

𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝗼𝗳𝗳:

𝗣𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗧𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗴𝗲𝗿𝘀:

𝗡𝗲𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗧𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗴𝗲𝗿𝘀:

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻/𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗲𝗱:

𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐈𝐧𝐟𝐨

𝗦𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗰𝗲:

𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗦𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗰𝗲:

𝗦𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗰𝗲 𝗧𝗮𝗹𝗸:

𝗦𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁:

𝗗𝗼𝘂𝗯𝗹𝗲𝘀 𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁:

𝗦𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗰𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗗𝗡𝗜:

𝐁𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬

𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:

𝗗𝗠:

𝗔𝘀𝗸 𝘁𝗼 𝗙𝗿𝗼𝗻𝘁:

𝗡𝗶𝗰𝗸𝗻𝗮𝗺𝗲𝘀:

𝗣𝗲𝘁 𝗻𝗮𝗺𝗲𝘀:

𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀:

𝗧𝗼𝘂𝗰𝗵:

𝗘𝘅𝘁𝗿𝗮:

𝗗𝗡𝗜:

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age / range

birthday

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gender

pronouns

orientation

species

sʏsᴛᴇᴍ

role

platonic relationships

familial relationships

romantic relationships

sᴏᴜʀᴄᴇ

relate with source?

source talk

source mates

doubles

dni

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pos triggers

neg triggers

touch

petnames

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↳ Basics

↳ Appearance

↳ System Info

↳ Source Info

↳ Relationships

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✞-Basics-✞

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-Name-

↳ Insert name here

↳ Goes by:

-Nickname(s)-

↳ Insert nickname(s) here

-Gender-

↳ insert gender here

-Pronouns-

↳ insert pronouns here

-Sexual Orientation-

↳ insert sexuality here

-Mono/Poly-

↳ insert

-Relationship-

↳ single/taken/complicated/crushing

-Age-

↳ insert age here

-Birthday-

↳ insert birthday here

-Species-

↳ insert species here

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✞-Appearance-✞

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↳ Insert

-Hair Color-

↳ Insert

-Height-

↳ Insert keywords

-Tattoos-

↳ Insert keywords

-Piercings-

↳ Insert keywords

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✞-System Info-✞

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-Subsystem-

↳ Insert subsys

-Typing Quirk-

↳ Insert

-Proxy-

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✞-Source Info-✞

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↳ Insert source

-Sourcetalk-

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-Sourcemates-

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-DNI-

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✞-Relationships-✞

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-Mother(s)-

↳ Insert mother’s name here

-Father(s)-

↳ Insert father’s name here

-Sisters-

↳ Insert their sisters’ names here

-Brothers-

↳ Insert their brothers’ names here

-Kids-

↳ kiddos names

-Neices and Nephews-

↳ Neices

↳ Nephews

-Aunts and Uncles-

↳ Aunts

↳ Uncles

-Partner(s)-

↳ Insert partners name

What are tonetags, How do I use them?

Tonetags are usually a sign off on a message to show which tone one has used! This helps people who cannot tell tone over text!

Why are people so persistent on using them?

It helps a lot of people! If they misunderstand something it could upset them! Be mindful!

What are some common Tonetags, What do they mean?

/g, /gq = genuine, genuine question

/j = Joking

/hj = Half joking

/ij = Inside joke

/cj = coping joke (commonly used after trauma jokes)

/lhj = Light hearted joke

/srs = Serious

/s, /sarc, /sar = Sarcastic/sarcasm

/hsrs = Half serious

/nsrs = not serious

/lh = Lighthearted

/l, /ly, /lyr = lyrics

/nay = not at you (when something isn't directed to you)

/ay = at you (when something it directed towards you)

/nbh = nobody here (commonly used after a vent towards someone to show it is not directed towards them, or to point out nobody in the group or place)

/dir = directed

/ndir = not directed

/safe = safe to click or open, (links or spoiled things)

/cur = Curious

/np = not pushing

/nf = not forced

/nfa = not forced answer

/nfta = not forced to answer

/rh, /rt = rhetorical question

/rt = retweet or rhetorical question

/pa = passive aggressive

/npa = not passive aggressive

/f, /fake = fake

/q, /quote = quote

/ref = reference

/ncm = not comparing, not competing

/c = copypasta, or caps lock

/li = literally

/hy, /hyp = hyperbole

/pc, /pos = Positive connotation

/nc, /neg = negative connotation

/neu = neutral connotation

/opn = opinion

/sugg = suggestion

/gs = genuine suggestion

/nbr = not being rude

So I started the process with a clinical psychologist to get a diagnosis. Issue is she was transphobic and unprofessional and just not great (and lying about her credentials). My actual therapist was wildly upset and felt terrible. We haven’t decided on next moves yet if i should try to go forward anyways or not, because it seems like the CLP may literally only diagnose me with adhd and nothing else because she refused to listen to me talk about DID, but ADHD was mentioned in passing and she suddenly made the entire appointment about that??

Anyways. So

The thing is, my real therapist who I fucking adore, won’t clinically diagnose me because she can’t do the assessments (she isn’t trained) and so she doesn’t feel comfortable right now doing so. (But she is taking the assessment classes because of me, so in 2-3 years no matter what she can😂) But she said I hit the score on the DES (which she comfortably can use) and I fit all of the criteria for OSDD/DID and she genuinely believes me. She’s even working with us as alters individually and she also has seen us switch.

What I’m trying to convince myself of, does this count enough as a diagnosis? I want a diagnosis to validate me because I have issues with believing myself. She can’t clinically diagnose me due to her own comfort, but she has essentially medically recognized me.

Would you all consider this a diagnosis?

(I am only asking as a way to validate my own thoughts. Not as a diagnosis. Just as a way to quell my concerns and validate myself so I can get some relief and stop trying to gaslight myself.)

Tl;dr

If you're in a public place it can be harder to ground. Here are things that have worked for us:

Pick a random colour and then find and name - out loud if possible, but in your head can help too - all the things you can see that are that colour. EG "that streetsign is green. This grass is green. That person's coat is green". Alternatively, just say the name of the colour every time you see something with that colour. If you run out of a colour too quickly, pick another one and start again.

Control your breathing. It's very easy to lose control of your breathing when dissociated. Try to focus on it, and count your breaths to whatever breathing exercises work for you. If you're not sure what to do, one good breathing exercise is to Breath In for 5 seconds, Hold It for 3 seconds, then Breathe Out for 6 seconds and repeat. Focus on how your breath feels; is the air warm, neutral or cold as you breathe in and out?

Wiggle your toes and feet, and/or your fingers and hands. This helps with the circulation flowing throughout your body, which can help you ground easier.

If possible, remove yourself from your current location. If you're in a cafe or library or store/shop, go to the bathroom if you feel able to, or leave the place briefly and walk around. If you're on the street, go into a nearby shop/cafe/mall/centre etc. If possible, a quieter place like a park may work best. Either way, try to change your location, as the change in scenery can help you with the dissociation.

Carry chewing gum and/or water. It's okay if you don't have them this time, but drinking water (especially if it's cold water), chewing gum or eating something small may help.

Some systems are very protective of syskids, but being a syskid and fronting isn't easy to do when you're in an older body. So we came up with a list of things our more innocent and traumatized syskids do while fronting. Not as important, but I used the word little in the title because it works for age regressors as well.

Write short stories about things. This allows traumatized syskids to express themselves and cope, as well as encourages them to learn about new things and develop fluency if they speak/read like a literal kid. (For example, some of our syskids still speak, read, and write with the grammar and spelling of actual kids.)

Do some art. Similar to the way above, it can allow syskids to cope and express themselves. It can also just be fun for them to do.

Similar to the one above, coloring can just be fun but it can also help people cope and express themselves.

Watch child and PG shows/movies! Some suggestions would be My Little Pony, Winx Club, Strawberry Shortcake, Scooby Doo, Spongebob, and basically any Disney or Nickeloadeon show.

Make jewlrey. It serves as a fun distraction and for smaller systems (it's more difficult for larger ones but not impossible), you could make it into a game for them to make a bracelet or piece of jewlrey for other headmates as an identifier and decorate it with things that remind them of them.

Play games on the phone. This could be games like Solitare, beauty salon games, Toka Toka kitchen, word games, coloring games, and more.

Play outside. This is less "sociably acceptable" if you're playing games like hide and seek or tag, but you can still have fun playing older games too like counting the animals you see, making flower crowns, find fun shapes out of clouds, etc.

Have a spa/self care day. Take a bath, do your makeup/hair, paint your nails, play dress up, read a book, take a nap, and cuddling a pet are some ideas. One of our syskids really likes dinosaurs, so we have a dinosaur informative book he reads when he fronts (for some inspiration on what you could read).