oriented aspecs or aromantics,
does anyone else feel like less of a ‘person’ compared to other people?
my autism and mental health issues etc. are definitely a factor but
in the context of being unable to ‘properly’ fulfill romantic feelings or obligations in a relationship the way you’re expected and supposed to.
and that these expectations aren’t unfair to be asked of you like. so it feels like there’s something wrong with you for finding it difficult or being unable to fulfill a romantic role, the traditional amato/heteronormative sociocultural role at least.
for me, being romance- or romantic relationship favourable (to a degree, sometimes), seemingly not reciprocating with others the ‘right way’ is honestly so disheartening and ruins your sense of self worth.
being in a situation where you do try but you don’t or can’t offer the right kind of love or affection or intimacy or anything that they do deserve and are right to want, idk. you just come to find you aren’t good enough and your personhood is also not enough. in a way.
like feeling less than for behaving wrong or *being* wrong
i understand communication is the best way forward for this kind of issue, but that doesn’t change this feeling you have and the comparisons to others/other ‘proper/normal’ relationships ifykwim
like what do you do when you want something but you really aren’t good or enough for it. lol
maybe qprs are the way to go /lh
this is a bit all over the place but. i'm not exactly looking for advice but if you relate please lmk 😭
