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Trapped  Condemned by things I did not do  Judged by actions I did not take  Caged by feelings I do not want  Held by words I did not say  Reaping what was not sown  Trapped     by  Dr John A. King    The post  Trapped  appeared first on  No Working Title .

The sun on my face, coffee and cigar in hand, I sit, quietly, and for just a moment, for just a little while, the world stopped spinning and the silence drowned out the noise of life.  And i was safe.     The post  My shed  appeared first on  No Working Title .

Male Survivors of Sexual Assault by UT Counseling and Mental Health Center    There is great societal denial of the fact that men can be sexually assaulted. This denial is partly rooted in the mistaken belief that men are immune to being victimized and/or that they should be able to fight off any attacker if they are truly a “real man.” A closely related belief is that men can’t be forced into sex– either they want it or they don’t. The statistics tell us a different story  that men are the survivors of sexual violence, including rape. The Center for Disease Control found in a study released in 2011 that nearly 1 in 71 men have experienced some form of sexual violence in their lives, including completed forced penetration, attempted forced penetration or alcohol/drug facilitated completed penetration. Additionally, 1 in 21 men reported being forced to penetrate someone else, most likely an intimate partner (44.8%) or acquaintance (44.7%).     These mistaken beliefs allow lots of men to feel safe and invulnerable, and to think of sexual assault as something that only happens to women. Unfortunately, these beliefs can also increase the pain experienced by a male survivor of sexual assault. These beliefs may leave a male survivor feeling isolated, ashamed, and that their masculinity has somehow been impacted by the assault. Sexual assault is never the fault of the survivor, no matter what their gender identity or expression is.     No wonder so few men actually get help after being sexually assaulted. The fact is that only 5 to 20% of all survivors of sexual assault report and the percentage for male survivors is even lower. Feelings of shame, confusion and self-blame leave many men suffering in silence after being sexually assaulted.     The following discuss some of the unique problems and concerns that male survivors may experience:     For most men the idea of being a victim is very hard to handle. We’re raised to believe that a man should be able to defend himself against all odds, or that he should be willing to risk his life or severe injury to protect his pride and self-respect. How many movies or TV shows have you seen in which the “manly” hero is prepared to fight a group of huge guys over an insult or name-calling? Beliefs about “manliness” and “masculinity” are deeply ingrained in most of us and can lead to intense feelings of guilt, shame and inadequacy for a male survivor of sexual assault.    Many male survivors may even question whether they deserved or somehow wanted to be sexually assaulted because, in their minds, they failed to defend themselves. Male survivors frequently see their assault as a loss of manhood and get disgusted with themselves for not “fighting back.” These feelings are normal but the thoughts attached to them aren’t necessarily true. Remind yourself that you did what seemed best at the time to survive– there’s nothing unmasculine about that.    As a result of guilt, shame and anger, some men punish themselves through self-destructive behavior after being sexually assaulted. For many, this means increased alcohol or drug use. For others, it means increased aggressiveness, like arguing with partners, friends, co-workers or even picking fights with strangers. Many men pull back from relationships and wind up feeling more isolated. It’s easy to see why male survivors of sexual assault are at increased risk for depression, increased conflict at work or school, or developing alcohol or other drug problems.    Many male survivors also develop sexual difficulties after being sexually assaulted. It may be challenging to resume sexual relationships or start new ones because sexual contact may trigger flashbacks, of the assault. It can take time to process an experience of sexual assault before a survivor is ready to engage in consensual sex again.   Men can develop confusion or questions about their sexuality. Since many people believe that only gay men are sexually assaulted by a man, a straight survivor may begin to believe that he must be gay or that he will become gay. Furthermore, perpetrators often accuse survivors of enjoying the sexual assault, leading some survivors to question their own experiences. Being sexually assaulted has nothing to do with sexual orientation:–past, present or future. People do not “become gay” as a result of being sexually assaulted.        The post  Male Survivors of Sexual Assault  appeared first on  GIVE THEM A VOICE .

When you are just starting out in your career or in business, you can be sure of a few fundamental truths: You’re not nearly as good as you think you are, and you certainly are not as important as you know you are; You’re wrong, you do have an attitude problem, and yes it really does […]

Worldwide more men and boys are trafficking for labour and military exploitation than women and girls.  Both genders are trafficked for sexual exploitation in equal numbers worldwide, in some nations as many as 85% of boys are sexually abuse.  Between 40-45% of TRAFFICKERS are female.  The post  TRAFFICKING IS A HUMAN RIGHTS ISSUE NOT A GENDER RIGHTS ISSUE  appeared first on  GIVE THEM A VOICE .