#nonvirmina

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Being a nonvirmina means I consider my gender identity deeply related to both femininity and masculinity, even though it's completely separate from woman and man.

In my case, this manifests when it comes to gender roles or presentation aspects that "feel right", especially when it comes to projecting myself in characters or situations, while I reject the idea of being a woman or a man because being categorized as either (or both, or in between) would make me very dysphoric. At times, my desire to express femininity and masculinity clashes, as certain aspects of these qualities are felt as incompatible with each other.

But while nonvirmina describes part of my gender experience, at some point I felt some kind of emptiness only describing my gender as such. Sure, it is feminine and masculine and not binary, but what else is there to it? Others use nonera/nonvir/nonvirmina to describe aspects of other genders, and, over time, I found myself identifying with that notion as well.

This is where being lichtgender comes in. This gender is defined as being better described as a big ball of light. And not only this felt like an accurate way to describe my gender when I reflected on how it looked like, it's also a very good metaphor for my nonbinary identity in general.

I am very much neither a woman nor a man. And, unlike some other nonbinary folks, this is very relevant to me: I don't want to settle down for nongendered wording when binary folks get to have their genders affirmed, I'm not comfortable being in women's or men's spaces beyond safety or misgendering issues, I don't want my pronouns to be the default ones for hypothetical people or mixed groups.

However, because of the connection I have with both masculinity and femininity, vocabulary such as aporagender or neutrois ends up being alienating to me: sure, these are labels that can be used by anyone with a gender that is neither woman nor man, but I feel like their intent wasn't to include any sort of connections to those genders.

Is my gender neutral? I'm not sure. My gender is aggressively not binary, but, at the same time, it's like it doesn't have many other particular qualities, and it's feminine and masculine as well, which can be kind of considered some sort of neutral state between various aspects. I only consider myself to have a single gender with multiple aspects to it as well, instead of a polygender person with a feminine gender, a masculine gender and a completely abinary gender.

Lichtgender, however, makes me able to express my gender in an inherently nonbinary way without having to commit to describing it as neutral or not neutral, or as aporine or not aporine, and so on. This is an advantage I don't see being explicitly talked about when it comes to being xenogender: it's not only about being able to talk about aspects of gender beyond the binary and proximity or opposition to it, but also about not having to position a gender or gender identity as possessing or not possessing one of those aspects.

I wouldn't be opposed to joining a community for censaris (people comfortable within the gender neutral spectrum with strong connections to both femininity and masculinity), if there was an existing one out there, for instance: it's definitely a closer experience to mine than, say, genderfluid or agender experiences. However, when it comes to communities more specific than nonbinary ones, the ones that are usually available to me end up being xenogender communities.

I coined the alibinary system (also at @alibinary) partly in response to the midbinary/abinary split, which doesn't acknowledge the differences between folks aligned to one part of the woman/man gender binary, folks who have connections to both sides of the gender binary and folks whose identities are related to binary genders but still not binary (not just many nonvirs/noneras/nonvirminas/nonangis, but also many antiwomen/antimen/antiandrogynes).

eu tive isso em mente após conversar com um amigo que estuda tupi.

Não sei se entendi a pergunta. Não acho que a palavra inavire chegou a influenciar qualquer questão, fora algumas identidades como nixavire?

A palavra inavire foi uma adaptação pensada para a língua portuguesa porque nonvirmina:

É uma palavra relativamente grande sem raízes óbvias e que, com isso, poderia aumentar o sentimento de estranheza que já acontece ao encontrar palavras novas;

Termina com a letra A, o que poderia incentivar pessoas a usarem o final de palavra a para concordar com a palavra (como em "uma nonvirmina"). Eu nunca pensei nisso antes, mas agora vejo também que o termo termina em "mina", o que pode fazer com que pessoas associem a identidade com o gênero mulher ao ouvir a palavra.

Por eu ser ume inavire, eu queria uma palavra mais enxuta para poder falar para outres sobre o meu gênero em contextos de língua portuguesa; uma que não seria tão convidativa a comentários sobre estrangeirismos e maldenominação da minha pessoa.

O prefixo in é mais usado para negação na língua portuguesa do que non, se é que este é usado (não negociável = inegociável, não transferível = intransferível). Combiná-lo com "na" de "femina" faz com que eu economize ainda mais uma letra (in + na = ina), e colocar vir no final também libera espaço para o uso de mais uma vogal, E, associada com não-binaridade / rejeição do binário de gênero (ainda que qualquer ume possa escolher quaisquer finais de palavra para se referir a si).

NAMES:

-Irune: Pronounced "ee-ROO-neh", this Basque girl's name means "trinity".

-Hirune: Pronounced "hee-ROO-neh", this Basque girl's name means "trinity". Variation of Irune.

-Milo: Pronounced "MY-low", this Latin and Old German unisex name means "soldier" or "merciful".

-Mylo: Pronounced "MY-low", this Latin and Old German boy's name means "soldier" or "merciful".

-Ava: Pronounced "AY-va", this Hebrew, Latin, and Germanic girl's name means "life", "bird", or "water island".

-Falke: Pronounced "FALK", this unisex German word name means "falcon".

-Adler: Pronounced "ADD-ler", this unisex German name means "eagle".

-Aderyn: Pronounced "ah-DEH-rin", this Cornish girl's name means "bird".

-Florian: Pronounced "FLOW-ree-an" or "FLAW-ree-an", this Latin unisex name means "flowering" for a boy and "flourishing, prosperous" for a girl.

-Emrys: Pronounced "EMM-riss", this Welsh unisex name means "immortal".

-Olin: Pronounced "OH-lin" or "AW-lin", this Swedish, Norwegian, and English boy's name with unisex potential means "ancestor, to inherit, legacy" in Swedish and Norwegian and "from the low-lying land" in English.

-Mael: Pronounced "mah-ELLE", this is a rare Breton boy's name with unisex potential meaning "prince" or "chieftain".

-Gwenael: Pronounced "gweh-nah-ELLE", this is a rare Breton boy's name with unisex potential meaning "generous and blessed".

PRONOUNS:

He/him/his/himself, Hi/hir/hirs/hirself, Ze/hir/hirs/hirself, Xe/xem/xyrs/xemself, Sie/hir/hirs/hirself, Heir/heir/heirs/heirself, Ki/kin/kins/kinself, Li/ege/li/egeself, Cro/crow/crows/crowself, Bi/bit/bits/bitself, Gli/glit/glitch/glitchself, Div/vine/divs/vineself, Co/co/cos/coself, Co/cor/cors/coreself, Di/div/divs/divself, Thon/thon/thons/thonself, Thou/thou/thous/thouself, E/eth/eirs/ethself, Ei/en/eirs/eirself, Hy/hymn/hymns/hymnself, Per/per/pers/perself, Hu/hum/hus/hus/huself

GENDERS (now comes the fun part!):

-Epicene: A gender that has characteristics of both binary genders, but is neither binary gender at the same time.

-Ambonec: A gender that is both male, female, and neither at the same time.

-Neuangi: An androgynous gender that is entirely neutral.

-Xenxari: Someone who is xiaspec/xingender, niaspec/ningender, and androgynous in alignment (liaspec) or in nature (lingender).

-Elvengender: A xenogender connected to elves in some way. It can be described as a majestic yet serious gender; beautiful and stern.

-Chimeragender: A xenogender that encompasses the feeling of being a hybrid, or not human, or feeling like a monster but not truly, that is under the umbrella of monstergenders.

-Metaphorgender: When one feels one's gender is a metaphor for something else. It feels not fully real and it may provide clarity or identify hidden similarities between two different identities.

-Orupin: An orderly gender with a sense of stability and reason for who and what they are, and feel that there is a logical reason for their gender.

-Anler: A strong-willed gender that is determined and certain about who and what they are. They will be angry if others insist their gender does not exist, and feel very grounded and supported in their gender.

-Neutrois: A nonbinary gender identity that is associated with having a neutral gender that is either strongly neither male nor female, weakly gendered, a balance of any and all genders within their experience, or genderless depending on the person.

-Genderlight: When all accessible genders within one's life and culture combines with their antigenders, and in turn becomes nullified and mixed, resulting in a "light" feeling.

Nonvirminaflux / Nonpuerellaflux flags

A Nonvirmina/Nonpuerella identity that varies in intensity over time. This can be gradually, rapidly, or any speed in-between depending on the person.

A Nonvirmina/Nonpuerella identity that is also Genderflux

The first flag is formatted after the most common Genderflux flag format using the colors of the Nonvirmina/Nonpuerella flag.

The second includes the four-point star and border elements of the alternate Nonvirmina/Nonpuerella flag.

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( Image IDs. The first image is a flag with six stripes, all equally sized. In order they are pale purple, white, black, pink, blue, and light green.

Nonpuerella / Nonvirmina flag

Inavire, Nonpuerella/Nonpurella or Nonvirmina: being neither male or female in any shape or form but feeling a strong connection to both masculinity and femininity within their gender. Combines nonera/nonpuella and nonvir/nonpuer.

Pleonotic: gender experience of someone who does not use other synonymous identities to describe their own gender identity. Ex: nongirl woman; nonman nonboy guy.