#nonjudgmentalparenting

I have come to see art not just as something to practice and perfect, but as a way of understanding — a language older than words, one that speaks to places that logic could never reach.

When I watch a child press blue beside red, or sweep paint across the paper in a sudden burst, I see emotion being spoken in a language beyond words. Neuroscience confirms this intuition: studies show that engaging in creative play activates the brain regions responsible for empathy, regulation, and self-awareness (Nelis et al., Personality and Individual Differences, 2009). The child’s paintbrush, then, is less a tool for pretty pictures and more a tuning fork for their inner world.

As parents and caregivers, we can honor this by shifting our gaze. Instead of asking, “What is it supposed to be?” we might ask, “How did it feel to make this?” That subtle change invites children to linger in the emotional process of creation rather than rushing toward the judgment of product.

Much like 17th-century painters who carefully built up their images layer by layer, patiently waiting for each glaze to dry before adding the next, we can also benefit from embracing patience in our own lives. This approach teaches us to accept that growth and progress often require time and careful attention, rather than rushing to see immediate results.

In daily life, this method means creating dedicated spaces at home that emphasize the act of experimenting and exploring rather than producing polished artwork. For instance, setting up a station with modeling clay or building blocks allows children to manipulate materials and bring their ideas to life through hands-on play. Alternatively, providing materials like watercolor paints or textured collage papers offers different avenues for creative engagement. Using a variety of tools such as digital drawing apps like, 'Kids Doodle', and 'Drawing with Carlor', and home made craft from left overs supplies encourages children to experiment freely, without the worry of correctness or perfection.

This approach emphasizes consistency over correctness, aligning with Friedrich Froebel's educational philosophy. Froebel, the founder of the kindergarten, believed that "play is the highest expression of human development in childhood, for it alone is the free expression of what is in a child's soul." His innovative use of "Froebel Gifts" such as geometric blocks and pattern activities, encouraged children to explore and express emotions through play.

This method fostered not only cognitive skills but also emotional and social development. Thus, art becomes more than an extracurricular activity, and time after time it serves as a vital practice for emotional and mental well-being.

And perhaps the deepest lesson is that when a child paints, they are not simply representing the world; they are rehearsing how to be in it. Every color mixed, every line drawn, every smudge embraced becomes practice for the delicate art of handling human feeling. We, as witnesses, are invited not only to applaud but to listen.