Hey! Looking for some advice. We recently discovered we're plural, but we're having trouble finding the names and pronouns of some of our headmates (most quickly found their name/pronouns). Specifically one of them, there's a name we've been using that we thought was they're name, but they aren't too sure about it now, and also aren't sure if they're okay with all pronouns. We were wondering if there's any way to help us find their name/pronouns? We've been looking on Pinterest for names but nothing seems to be the right one. Thank you 💖
Hey there. Congrats on discovering and exploring your system. It can be a very long process, so it's ok if people aren't sure of names or pronouns at this time. It's great you have that communication with your headmates in general!
Pinterest can be a good place to look. We've used all sorts of naming websites in the past to find names for headmates. Consider nontraditional names as well, like the name of an object, toy, place. Consider nicknames or modified versions of common names, different spellings too.
A name can be anything, and like pronouns, you can always change it too. You could even ask if the headmates prefers multiple names or pronouns, or no pronouns at all.
Finally, you can also consider what is important to this headmate. What's important to your system? Does this headmate want a name that is symbolic of them, the system, their role? Or do they want something that sounds fitting, that has a certain quality.
I hope this has given you some help!
