Spa Blog 6.23.2026 2026
I received my first formal complaint from a client this week. "Formal" is not the best-suited word, but there was nothing "official" or "proper" about this complaint. I'm honestly surprised it took more than two years of this career for me to finally snap. I didn't yell or use profanity, all I did was coldly quietly tell my client that I was done listening to her non-stop trauma dump about elementary school and how utterly impossible it has been for her to cope with having minor autism. I hate that this was about neurodivergence, because in reality it was about my client having intolerably bad breath. I can handle trauma dumping and difficult subject matter, but surely I have to have a line somewhere. In the moment I told my client to adjust what was immediately adjustable, her speech. I have ZERO DOUBT that if I had told her to take a mint and put on a face mask she would have found a way to use her autism diagnosis to excuse this disgusting lack of hygiene. Frankly, I don't regret telling her off and I reserve the right to inform clients when their body odors are unacceptable. I do regret slipping a inch over my personal line of professionalism. Yes I silenced this extremely upsetting client for a few minutes, but then she continued her obnoxious stream of consciousness to my coworker at scheduling as well as my boss two days later, wasting their time unnecessarily. My boss called me in for a formal talking-to yesterday. I wasn't surprised to hear that she talked non-stop for some 26 minutes, but I feel responsible for causing her time to be wasted. I saw this client's mother yesterday and immediately apologized for upsetting her daughter. Her mother completely shrugged the incident off and agreed that her child is an "energy vampire". This whole ordeal was a sharp lesson in learning not to care too much.
I've been feeling this lesson slowly sinking in over the last few weeks as I am being repeatedly met with obstinance from my department manager. The respectful way to put it is "she is set in her ways" the bluntly honest way to put it is "she's a petty immature woman who can't stand the idea of someone being smarter than her". She has tried thrice now to undermine my simple premise of weighing and tracking the nail polish bottles to estimate their quality instead of manually opening all 500 of them and visually inspecting them. I can't help it that I'm over-qualified with Microsoft Excel, that's my autism weapon, but I've been toe-to-toeing with her for months and I'm tired. The trouble is I have seen my team's demonstrated thinking ability and I don't trust any of them to do a better job. But I'm not being paid enough. Next week I have another brief meeting with my spa owner scheduled and I think I'm going to tell her my dilemma.












