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Was it planned? Was it an accident?

Well it was planned but it wasn’t but that probably doesn’t make sense. Let me explain...

Me and Brad have been together for 6 years, engaged and have lived together for a few years. We have always spoke about having a family together. We then seriously started to think about it and decided to start trying after about 3 months we both spoke again and said shall we wait until after the wedding as we had already started booking things and it was getting closer and we both agreed! There was also other things that we wanted to do like go back to Australia to visit family. It then came round to the 4th month and my period was delayed ! I knew instantly because my periods have always been like clockwork and I knew exactly when I would come on. So .... no period! At this moment I was a little scared, I remember telling Brad I haven’t come on and that I needed to get a test. Silly me, I was even nervous to go and get a test because the town I live in, everyone knows everyone and I thought knowing me I would be served by someone who knows me or Brad and soon the whole town is talking about it 🙈😂. Anyway, I plucked up the courage and went down to the pharmacy and bought a test it was one of the clear blue digital ones because I wanted to know for definite and how many weeks! When I got home I went straight upstairs and took the test! I remember reading the instructions in the box thinking I need to do this properly it said wee and then leave it laying flat on the side, 😂! So I patiently waited which felt like a good 5 minutes..... and there it was PREGNANT 2-3 weeks 😲😲😲. I shouted Brad and said I am he said what? I nervously said pregnant it honestly felt so strange saying I was pregnant! We were both really shocked and neither of us could believe it was really happening! The thoughts and emotions were running high, mainly what were people going to say? I knew I needed to tell my mum and I wasn’t sure what she was going to say. I had just started my own business how was I going to run that? How would everyone react? I’ll be honest I was really scared and couldn’t help but think have we done the right thing? Was we really ready for this? I will say I always thought when I found out I was pregnant I was going to be so happy and it be the best thing in the world. Obviously deep down I was happy but the initial shock took over and I was scared. I look back now and realise that no one is ever fully ready and my feelings were completely normal, but I did feel guilty for the way I was feeling because I was comparing myself to others and the way they reacted. We must remember that everyone is different and that’s ok! 😊

I’m really rubbish at keeping things in and 12 weeks to keep a secret was way too long for me! The first person I needed to tell was my mum.. for those of you that know my mum will understand the reaction we got is completely normal. For those of you that don’t .... my mum doesn’t show her emotions and is very much a traditionalist. I knew I would get ‘Kelly I thought you were going to get married first?’ So here goes, I pick my phone up, dial her number and as I wait for her to answer I was tearing up! She answered and I told her I had something to tell her. Deep down she knew the news I was about to share, so I said ‘I’m pregnant’ her reaction was just as it played out in my head and I remember mum saying ‘oh gosh really? Are you happy about it?’ Mums reaction was so predictable but I wouldn’t have changed it that is just mum! I told her I was scared but we are happy! Mum asked the question ‘what about the wedding?’ I explained we would still get married but it would be smaller than I originally thought we would have. I’m really close to my dad he’s like my best friend and I share everything with him so I knew that he was the next person that I needed to tell. Ideally I wanted to wait but with my parents living in Norfolk and my dad usually working away it wasn’t ideal. A phone call would have to do. So I called him again I felt nervous, dad answered like he always does, ‘hello lovely you ok?’ I said yeah fine thank you, I have something to tell you. He asked what’s that? So I told him I’m pregnant, there was a few moments of silence, then he was like no way, bloody hell, are you really? I honestly think he was speechless and didn’t know how to react - his first grandchild was on its way!! 🥰

Once I told my parents we then went on to telling Brads they only live round the corner from us. As expected they were also very shocked and speechless but really happy for us both! At this point everyone was just speechless and super shocked!! We went back to Norfolk the following weekend and saw my brothers and their girlfriends, one of which had her suspicions that I could be so when she asked I couldn’t lie, I think she was probably one of the only people that wasn’t speechless but she was over the moon for us! So then I told my other brothers girlfriend and I honestly wish now I had videoed her reaction! To say she was speechless would be an understatement she couldn’t stop crying - happy tears of course!! I knew I had to tell my brothers. They are a bit like mum so don’t show their emotions, and the oldest one made the same comment ‘I thought you were getting married next year? (Sensible Simon he is) 😂’ They were all really happy for us. We then decided that we couldn’t wait till 12 weeks to tell our close friends they were next, again there was more tears and a lot of excitement! I will say that I did feel a lot of pressure on who to tell first because we both hate upsetting people and obviously didn’t want to do that - I will say though don’t do what others want you to do, it’s your special moment and your news to share so unfortunately you won’t be able to please everyone.. don’t feel guilty 💕

Once the news was out in the open with our family and close friends we booked our first appointment which I didn’t realise at the time but you don’t need to see a doctor you can just book straight in with a midwife.

It did take ages for everything to sink in and I didn’t actually feel like I was pregnant until our 12 week scan. I did feel like I had a fairly straight forward pregnancy, I had a bit of morning sickness which at the time I thought was awful but believe me it’s easy compared to what you have to come!! People told me to eat ginger biscuits but this personally didn’t work for me. I found that just snacking throughout the day was the best thing! It was worse in the evenings for me which resulted in me going to bed early just to block it all out!

By the time our first midwife appointment came through I was really excited! Brad on the other hand looked like he may need some nurse assistance in the waiting room - I thought he was going to faint! 😂Brad kept asking what’s this appointment about then? I had no idea it was all new to us both. They called my name and we went through to a little room with our midwife who we were lucky to have throughout our pregnancy - she was amazing we couldn’t have wished for anyone better! She was even keen for Ralph to be born on Christmas Day as she was on shift. The first appointment was all a blur to be honest, they did a lot of tests, asked a lot of questions. We got the choice of hospital which were Norwich, Ipswich or Gorleston. We didn’t need to think about it - our baby would be born at Gorleston. Brad is a Ipswich supporter so there’s no way he would have picked Norwich and I personally don’t like Ipswich. We had also been given positive feedback from friends who had their babies at Gorleston. Our midwife sent off for our first scan - things really were starting to feel real! We received our letter within about a week so didn’t have long to be impatient.

The build up to the scan was really difficult to keep a secret, I kept thinking about how we would reveal it to the world. We knew that we wanted to involve Darcie our bulldog! So after searching ‘baby reveal with dog’ on pintrest a thousand times I then started searching for baby shower ideas, nursery ideas, baby clothes, when does the baby move, what should a women at 12 weeks look like - I know everyone looks different I was just intrigued. I become a little obsessed with Pinterest and searching the internet but I was just so excited!

We had our letter for our 12 week scan come through! Secretly we were hoping it would be sooner as we had a family wedding so I couldn’t drink. Not that this was a problem I’ve never been a massive drinker so I didn’t mind. The morning of the wedding was probably the start of my stress, my outfit was being delivered at 1pm, the wedding was at 2pm but for those of you that know me this is pretty standard - I do love a last minute outfit change! I had 3 outfits all on and off because I didn’t want to look pregnant or fat or people asking questions. The winning outfit was a loose fitted jumpsuit and you couldn’t tell which made me think people wouldn’t notice that I’m not drinking but there was a few questions like ‘why isn’t Kelly drinking?’ Luckily I had a good cover up with the typical ‘I’m driving’ which isn’t out of the ordinary so no one else really mentioned anything, also the limelight was on my cousin and his new wife the whole day was beautiful so looking back now I’m not sure why I worried but that’s just me!

To be Continued....

I didn’t expect this to be so long but I have a lot to share! ..... Next part of my journey “12 week scan, private scan and 20 week scan”

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