Just realised it's trans day of visibility today bc y'all I was having a bad day but I just remembered how many multigender folks exist and it's so awesome. I exist at the same time as multigender trans girls and boys, as boygirls, as manwomen and womanmen, out there there's bigender people getting funky with gender presentation and multitrans girls trying additional pronouns and multitrans boys finding a new label for themselves. There are transneutral genderfluid people and transfemxenine girlthings and demifluid folks and transandrogynous enbies and cisfem guys and tris genderflux enben and it's just a wonderful place to be.
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I feel like even other trans people who accept multigender people just don't seem to know what to do with multigender people.
I have to keep telling people to mix up the terminology they use for me, and not exclusively put me in one category or only use one kind of terminology to refer to me (such as only "masculine" terminology, or only feminine). I ask people to be more conscientious and use more masculine terms, and they start overcorrecting and forget to use feminine terms. I ask them to start doing that now, they overcorrect, rinse and repeat. People hesitate to put me in the category of "man."
Not multigender phobia but multigender joy!!! My mom asked me about my gender identity (I identify as a transfemmasc agender boything and boygirlthing) so i explained it to her in detail and whilst she was confused, she asked questions very respectfully and in the end said she appreciated the talk and the ability to understand me more! ^_^ shoutout my mom!!
This is multigender joy!! Im so happy for you anon, this is wonderful <333
No way Soul stop creating new blogs challenge. No but fr, hi y'all! This blog is inspired by my wonderful friend @thisisexorsexism and @this-is-antitransfemininity, @this-is-varsexism-transphobia and the new @this-is-binarism and @this-is-sexism.
Im a transfemmasc multigender enby boygirl (if your first question is "how??", check out this post [link] where I explain why I call myself the way I do) and I wanted to make a space specifically to call out multigenderphobia or multigendermisia, aka the discrimination and erasure of multigender identities. I see it a lot tied with rethoric that puts man/woman, masculinity/femininity, cis/trans, binary/nonbinary, gay/straight or gay/lesbian as opposite, mutually exclusive experiences.
This fuels the belief in oppositional sexism and harms *everyone*, but because non binary and specifically multigender people are rarely if ever focused on, even though this rethoric targets us in particular, I wanted to try and contribute my own to the community through this blog.
Should go without saying that any hatred towards contradictory labels is also multigenderphobia, although multigender people arent the only one to use them. This blog is therefore absolutely inclusive of mspec lesbians/gays, cistrans, gaybians, boygirls and manwomen, xenogenders, non binary men and non binary women, honeybee transfem and carpenter bee transmascs and all other labels used in good faith. Also should go without saying, any a-spec identities, ace, aro, afamilial, aplatonic, etc and oriented aroaces + polyamorous people.
This blog is also safe for systems and plurals of any origin, people of colour, intersex people, physically and/or mentally disabled people, neurodivergent people and all personality/mood disorders, and should go without saying but with the current discourse and infighting Ill state it, binary trans women and binary trans men. I support everyone in talking about their oppression and struggles.
Extra info + tagging system
If you recognise my name, I also run @our-genderquestioning-experience and @angels-safe-corner. Im not an activist and I am just a multigender student who really wants to do eir part to help other trans people.
I use ey/em/eir/eirs/emself pronouns alongside he/him and she/her *intercheangably* (I cannot stress enough to not just refer to me as she or he exclusively), alternatively it/its or any neos. Please do not use they/them for me, although I totally understand if it's used because you havent read my pronouns yet (aka as a gender neutral way to refer to anyone), but if you're reading this, Id rather you use my preferred pronouns than they/them.
The main header flag and dividers are the multigender flag made by @wrenflags in this post [link]
The profile picture is a sensory friendly softened version of the original multigender flag, made by @your-bigender-big-brother in this post [link] on which @rikkayeet applied the trans anarchy symbol, which you can find in this post [link] and the original design + different versions they made in this post [link]
Thattt should be all, asks will be open for anyone. Multigender people shoutout to y'all, you're awesome and wonderful and I love you <3
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Hey y'all, asks will stay open, but due to exam season and personal things I might have more of a hard time running the account rn as far as reblogs goes. To clarify, Im not going anywhere! I want to be there to share joy and help others, but I have three requests this pride month.
If you need to talk, if you need to rant, scream of joy, if you want someone to listen, my askbox is open for you and I dont want you to think you'd be bothering me with it. All asks are posted unless explicitly stated otherwise and even if things may be a little harder for me, I still want y'all to know that if you need, asks are on
Share queer joy!! Send posts about happiness and supporting others. I will take some time away from engaging in discourse, and I want to center community and happiness during pride, for my own health
While I wouldnt go as far as calling running this blog "work" that I do, if my presence here is something positive to you, please let me know! Im only human, so bigotry and my personal life gets me down sometimes. This account is mine but it's also dedicated to, and to support, you all and the community, so please tell me if this space means something to you!! If you've sent me an ask and appreciated my reply, if you like this blog, if this space is important to you, tell me about it!
You all are my main motivation in running this, and while Im not planning to quit either way, it helps to know if this blog and what I do is something you appreciate! I want to know if anyone is counting on this blog or if what I do here helped anyone, because that's what helps me know that what Im trying to do works and that my effort to keep this up is worthwhile <3
[pt: While I wouldnt go as far as calling running this blog "work" that I do, if my presence here is something positive to you, please let me know! Im only human, so bigotry and my personal life gets me down sometimes. This account is mine but it's also dedicated to, and to support, you all and the community, so please tell me if this space means something to you!! If you've sent me an ask and appreciated my reply, if you like this blog, if this space is important to you, tell me about it!
You all are my main motivation in running this, and while Im not planning to quit either way, it helps to know if this blog and what I do is something you appreciate! I want to know if anyone is counting on this blog or if what I do here helped anyone, because that's what helps me know that what Im trying to do works and that my effort to keep this up is worthwhile <3 /end pt]
What's your favourite thing about being multigender? (Asking this to hopefully bring some positivity)
Ohhh great question! Thank you for the ask!
Im honestly unsure how to reply because my favourite thing is the happiness I get from being free to be myself!! And that's not really specific to being multigender, Id say everyone who has been through a gender questioning journey and found what gives them euphoria is going to feel like that!
But I love calling myself a boygirl, I love being non binary, I love looking and being androgynous and mostly that it takes away the burden of thinking about how my identity isnt accepted by others when I can just be who I am and so live my life without that nagging at me. Also I absolutely love making multigender characters that have complex relationships with gender, I feel there is so much variation that is so cool to explore and I adore doing it!!
This is probably more the result of multigenderphobia.
Im tired of feeling like I have to over explain my transition types to people. What I mean is, I dont feel like I can ever just say Im transmasc and leave it there. I dont feel like I can do that either with transfem or transneutral. I feel I have to always say at least somewhere in a post that Im transfemmascneu. But sometimes I just wanna be seen as transfem for a bit. Sometimes I only wanna be transneutral for a bit. But Im so scared people are gonna say Im lying, or that Im just picking whatever label will make me look best in that specific moment. Ive seen people say that before.
I wanna connect with transfems and specifically talk about being transfem. I wanna connect with transmascs and talk about being transmasc. I wanna connect with transneutrals and specifically talk about being transneutral.
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In the process of writing this out, I think I figured out the underlying hurt and reason for feeling this way (so thank you for opening a spot for me to talk this through and figure it out).
I feel like I have to placate everyone and that Im actually not the same as them. There's a belief that I am entirely different then transfems, transmascs, and transneutrals. Like I am not them, but in a different box entirely. I feel I have to allow others to seperate myself from them otherwise Im lying. I maybe transmasc, but Im not REALLY transmasc, Im this weird other thing thats trying to sneak their way into the transmasc community and destroy it or water it down. I may say Im transfem, but no one really believes that, so I dont belong in their space cause Im just a mutant other option. Im not transfem to them, Im transfemmascneu. So I dont belong there and if I dont make sure everyone knows then I must be sneaking in to hurt the community.
This is multigenderphobia.
Mod reply
I am very glad you figured out why you were hurting. This is definitely a more unique facet to multigenderphobia. And I completely get it too.
I definitely do feel the same anon, like Im lying if I say Im transmasc or transfem on their own. I can be a trans boygirl, but a trans boy or a trans girl? No, because Im different from them and I know people will make assumptions that I dont want them to make. About my life or experiences, about how much authority I have to speak over myself and my identity.
Thank you for involving me in this process anon, because it's very much how I feel too, and it's nice to know someone else managed to put it into words.
It definitely feels like putting a giant disclaimer in front of everything you say, like if you tried to talk about being transneutral you need to preface with "But I dont actually have the experiences they have because Im transmascfem too so Im really an outsider" and it puts this huge wall where it's like you're not part of the community that share your identities. Like you're separated by a glass wall, like you dont belong because you're not a hundred percent the same.
It fucking sucks. Because that would mean that we can only have community with people that have the exact same identity as us, and that's very very difficult the more specific you get. It sucks right now because the infighting makes things more separated and everyone who doesnt neatly fit in one or the other slips through the cracks. If everyone were welcoming of each other, if we didnt have this constant looking for the imposter, for the spy, for the intruder, then maybe we would all be safer in accepting our community alongside its differences. In being in community with people different from us.
Im so sorry anon, it's so lonely this feeling, not belonging even in communities made by people who dont belong. Im glad you came here, Im happy to be part of the multigender community because you belong here, and so do I. I hope you can feel safe, because you are not a threat just for being different. You dont need to preemptively distance yourself from others to avoid being hurt when others see you are different. It's okay to want one part of your identity to be recognized or to feel it stronger, to want to highlight it. This is seriously about to make me cry because I know how it hurts. I dont know you but I love you, you deserve to feel safe, appreciated and to find community with people who understand you, to communicate on similar experiences and identities even if others are different<3
