#mrs. sinclair

the actress who plays mrs. sinclair posted a bunch of grad pics, including the same exact pic we looked at the other day with the yellow sign, except this time the letters (that aren’t blocked) are clear:

so it’s definitely …ONG A(Y)…! (any guesses? long way? like the way they didn’t take through henry’s memories)

also this cutie byler pic and this silly one🥰 (plus she liked a couple of byler comments!):

then some odd randy photos (ig they’re not that odd i just don’t trust him):

and one more thing, the caption. listen, i know she’s putting graduation in quotes because it was a fictional graduation but WHAT IF that’s not the only reason (i.e., the kids never had their graduation, the epilogue was fake):

Dustin: Billy, can you help me with the DnD campaign I’m working on?

Mrs. Sinclair: I’m sorry, Billy. We didn’t get started with dinner as early as we thought we would, so Max isn’t ready to go yet. Why don’t you come in and eat with us? I made Max’s favourite, macaroni and cheese with hotdogs in it.

Steve: There’s a gross spider in my pool house. Can you come kill it? And while you’re here, I have movies and beer and snacks. You might as well stay. You can even sleep over, and I’ll make you pancakes in the morning, baby.

Nancy: Can read over this English paper I’m writing, Billy?

Hopper: Can you go hang out with El, Billy? I have to stay late at work and she’d appreciate the company.

“Intensive Mothering” as defined by sociologist Sharon Hays.

“New Momism” originated in 1942 with Philip Wylie’s book Generation of Vipers where he attacked (let’s be real) moms for being smothering and turning their sons, America’s soldiers into weaklings as “Momism”. This new definition refers to a highly romanticized and demanding view of motherhood where standards for success are impossible to meet.

“Intensive mothering insists that mothers acquire professional-level skills such as those of a therapist, pediatrician (’Dr. Mom’), consumer products safety inspector, and teacher, and that they lavish every ounce of physical vitality they have, the monetary equivalent of the gross domestic product of Australia, and, most of all, every single bit of their emotional, mental, and psychic energy on their kids. We must learn to put on the masquerade of the doting, self-sacrificing mother and wear it at all times. With intensive mothering, everyone watches us, we watch ourselves and other mothers, and we watch ourselves watching ourselves. How many of you know someone who swatted her child on the behind in a supermarket because he was, say, opening a pack of razor blades in the toiletries aisle, only to be accosted by someone she never met who threatened to put her up on child-abuse charges?....Motherhood has become a psychological police state.”

“Intensive mothering is the ultimate female Olympics: We are all in powerful competition with each other, in constant danger of being trumped by the mom down the street, or in the magazine we’re reading. The competition isn’t just over who’s a good mother--it’s over who’s the best. We compete with each other; we compete with ourselves. The best mothers always put their kids’ needs before their own, period. The best mothers are the main caregivers. For the best mothers, their kids are the center of the universe. The best mothers always smile. They always understand. They are never tired. They never lose their temper. They never say, ‘Go to the neighbor’s house and play while Mommy has a beer.’ Their love for their children is boundless, unflagging, flawless, total. Mothers today cannot just respond to their kids’ needs, they must predict them--and with the telepathic accuracy of Houdini. They must memorize verbatim the books of all the child-care experts and know which approaches are developmentally appropriate at different ages. They are supposed to treat their two-year-olds with ‘respect’. If mothers screw up and fail to do this on any given day, they should apologize to their kids, because any misstep leads to permanent psychological and/or physical damage. Anyone who questions whether this is the best and the necessary way to raise kids is an insensitive, ignorant brute. This is just common sense, right?”

“According to postfeminism, women now have a choice between feminism and antifeminism and they just naturally and happily choose the latter. And the most powerful way that postfeminism worked to try to re-domesticate women was through the new momism. Here’s the progression. Feminism won; you can have it all; of course you want children; mothers are better at raising children than fathers; of course your children come first; of course you come last; today’s children need constant attention, cultivation, and adoration, or they’ll become failures and hate you forever; you don’t want to fail at that it’s easier for mothers to abandon their work and their dreams than for fathers; you don’t want it all anymore (which is good because you can’t have it all); who cares about equality, you’re too tired; and whoops--here we are in 1954.”

OMG I’m so happy you like that idea too!!

I wish we knew more about Mrs. Sinclair, because there are not enough WOC in this show, and I wish we got way way more interactions between all the female characters like jfc do we have to do everything ourselves Duffers? (i know we do I’m just endlessly bitter don’t mind me)