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I was in Ashland on Saturday for Southern Oregon Pride, so of course I had to say hi to Litha Park's giant sequoias. I don't know if these two have names, but I always call them the Giant Twins or similar.

Thanks for the request! I hope this is what you were hoping for! (also, long time readers may notice I look a little… different. Yes, the red is new!) 

/// also, surprise selfie! tfw mun is just as beautiful and good at posing as muse~ yall should post selfies too, if you're comfortable w that!!!

The hardest part of drawing Blitz is dressing him right because I have the worst fashion taste. Just look at this jank ass outfit I wore for almost a whole year in middle school 

Happy trans day of visibility! 

These photos of me were both taken in the same café, about two and a half years apart. The first is from September 2016, and the second is from a few days ago. 

In the first picture, I was deeply insecure about my gender identity, having only realised I was non-binary less than 6 months beforehand. I had a really deep imposter syndrome feeling, like I wasn’t really trans enough, or that my feelings were just a phase and I was going to grow out of them and it would reflect badly on the trans community. At the time, I wasn’t really comfortable even referring to myself as trans. I struggled a lot with identifying whether I wanted to do certain things in my transition such as cut my hair, change my name, and medically transition because it was what I wanted, or because I felt like it was what I had to do in order to be ‘really’ non-binary. The cookie-cutter idea of androgyny felt inaccessible to me, and I was resigned to never being comfortable with the way I looked. 

It’s honestly hard to believe that person was me, looking back. Now, I’m out as non-binary, and 100% comfortable and secure in my gender identity. I know nothing anyone can say can shake my confidence in who I am, and that there’s no wrong way to be trans. The most important thing is being true to myself, and I have the confidence to start doing that now. I’ve changed my name, started presenting the way I want to, and come out to start living as my true self, and I feel so much happier and more liberated for it, and I wish that feeling upon every trans person, no matter where you are in your transition. 

Happy trans day of visibility!

(left photo: 2013-16, right photo, 2019, blond he/him, ginger they/them)

I know a lot of trans folks worry about never finding a romantic partner who sees them for the gender they really are, and loves them for their transness, so friendly reminder from your neighbourhood Transes In Love that finding love and acceptance (romantic, platonic, and familial, whatever family means to you) is absolutely possible!

My partner and I have been best friends since we were about 15, and we both realised we were trans independently of one another and came out to each other on the same day. We got together just under a year after that, and we've been together for over two years. I've never had a moment's doubt that he sees me as the non-binary person I am and loves me for the real me. He's unfailingly supportive, and always makes me feel safe and seen, even though our trans narratives are very different. I've loved him since before I knew he was trans, and I'll continue to love him long into the future.

@ trans people, especially young trans people and people struggling to accept their identity: you are lovable for exactly who you are. You deserve to be loved and respected and seen. You are enough. Your transness doesn't make you less likely to find love from people who see and accept you for your true self.