#mocking appearance

Not sure if this counts because we are not Jewish but it still pissed me off on how they made assumptions based on stereotypes and weren't even right about it (they refused to accept they were wrong as well)

This is racism and antisemitism. @thisisantisemitism

You (general you) cannot assume someone's ethnicity based on appearance. It doesn't work that way. Humans are varied, and categorizing humans is based upon social constructs.

And you'd think I'd committed a war crime, the way people act when I draw her with black facial features and hair in microbraids. But I've always seen her as black. I know she's not, technically. In real life she'd be Albanian, biologically. I just... idk, I think if magic can change her skin and hair color, why not her hair texture? Why couldn't the girl who stayed kind and conquered by being smarter than anyone else be black? Why couldn't the beautiful girl with the dark skin and pale hair be Afro-Albanian? People say it's butchering our folklore to do this. They say it's destroying our culture. I don't think it is. I think it would be good for black girls to see themselves in a fairy tale as the heroine, kind and sweet and delicate but simply too smart to be stopped. She doesn't win through brute force but through cleverness, like many heroes who are male in folklore. We all acknowledge that's important, yes? It's important to represent girls as smart and show being soft and feminine doesn't mean weak. So then why isn't it important to show black girls as soft, delicate, feminine geniuses who refuse to give up?

I think what bothers me is that I'm not really racebending her. She's already black-passing. She's never been white-passing. All I've done is draw her without straightened hair. I'm trying to get a children's book I've made of her published, but I'm fighting an uphill battle because of the hair. Why was Qintomna a good role model for girls before, but not with her hair in braids? Why are people excited when I pitch them the idea, then uncomfortable when they see the art? Are we all really that shallow?

This is racism.

I've never heard this folk tale before, but I would love to see your Black Qintomna art!

I want to pull these pieces out from your ask, because this sums it up perfectly:

TW: racial trauma, tone policing, gaslighting, verbal/emotional abuse

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So one of the worst racist experiences I had was from my mom and stepdad. It actually led me to moving out and cutting contact.

For context, I am mixed race South Asian. My dad's side is from India and my mom's side is white (mostly German and a tiny bit Irish). I am on the lighter side, but i would prefer the term racially ambiguous. That seems to fit the experiences I have had.

But anyway, I had noticed for a long time that we did not see eye to eye when it came to issues of race. They would constantly say all these microaggressions like how Indian food looks gross or that I smell like curry.

Would also make fun of Indian accents.

And that's not getting into people of other racial backgrounds. But they like to pretend like they're very accepting.

But it is extremely tokenizing, like patting themselves on the back because my mom married a brown man and we are her mixed kids, and so on.

It's really gross and dehumanizing in a way.

So we had this massive fight because they were trying to tell me colonization was a good thing. Considering how half my family is from India and suffered from very brutal colonization from the British, I called bullshit on that.

And they were trying to justify imperialism in the Philippines but then it just derailed from that initial argument. I was just trying to explain like, hey, maybe let's not try to say that genocide, elsavement, and theft of Indigenous land is a good thing. But no, I'm the one in the wrong.

I was very upset after this whole incident and tried to explain how I felt but they did not listen and I felt very unheard. I literally wrote out a whole letter and read it to them at dinner and they started saying "I'm not racist, my family never owned slaves, you're just overreacting, we raised you better than this, you're too PC and we feel like we have to watch what we say around you." Also while slamming dishes around in the sink.

I talked to multiple therapists and they were all like, "You've experienced racial trauma," but it was more than just that.

Because I felt like they betrayed me and stabbed me in the back. And I had no way to even talk about it with them because they were the ones causing me so much pain.

I should also say. This is not the first time l've ever experienced racism either since I have lived my life as a mixed person, but it just felt so visceral and I don't know how to describe it. It just hurt so much coming from people who supposedly had my back but when it came down to it, they discarded me like it meant nothing.

This is racism.

Comparing another cultures food to sewage and vomit

“Youre not asian because you dont look like this” *proceeds to pull eyes back*

Mocking and laughing at other languages and accents

Calling someone disgusting because you think their food is gross (differing opinions is fine but lets be civil about it, yes?)

Downplaying others experiences with racism, claiming someone is playing victim when speaking about their experiences and claiming its just not possible for certain poc to experience racism

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