(The English writing may not be perfect, as I don't know much English and I'm using a translator so that more people can understand it. If you support this idea, regardless of your language, please help us spread the word about this initiative)
ESPAÑOL:
¿Que es lo que l@s menores de edad (niñ@s, preadolescentes y adolescentes) esperamos y necesitamos de l@s adultos?
–Nadie pide que no se pongan limites, solo pedimos que sea con respeto y que sean limites razonables, con un fundamento claro.
Ejemplo: Decir que no nos podemos poner la ropa que queremos porque a mama o papa no les gusta, no es valido. Decir que no podemos tomar alcohol o salir del pais, si es valido y tiene motivos validos.
–No juzguen o prohiban a nuestras amistades o parejas a menos que sea peligroso para nosotr@s.
Mientras estemos felices y no haya un peligro concreto para nosotr@s, dejennos ser felices.
–No nos digan "floj@s" "vag@s" ni nada que sea para echarnos la culpa como primer recurso ante malas conductas o problemas academicos.
Los problemas de conducta y cosas academicas como malas notas suelen ser el sintoma de algo. Ayudennos a solucionar el problema que causa eso, no nos tachen a nosotr@s de algo sin saber.
–Confien en nosotr@s y crean lo que decimos.
Da igual si es una cuestión como una discusión o malentendido menor o algo muy grave, escuchen todas las versiones, incluyendo la nuestra. No se dejen llevar unicamente por comentarios de otras personas sobre nosotr@s.
–Dediquen el tiempo necesario a nosotr@s.
Necesitamos que nuestros padres esten ahi para nosotr@s, para guiarnos, escucharnos, pero que esten presentes y abiertos a hablar de una forma respetuosa y segura donde podamos confiar y abrirnos, sin ser juzgad@s, minimizad@s o retad@s.
ENGLISH:
What do minors (children, pre-teens, and teenagers) expect and need from adults?
–No one is asking for limits to be set, we are only asking that they be respectful and reasonable, with a clear basis.
For example: Saying we can't wear the clothes we want because Mom or Dad doesn't like them is not valid. Saying we can't drink alcohol or leave the country is valid and has valid reasons.
–Don't judge or forbid our friends or partners unless it's dangerous for us.
As long as we are happy and there is no concrete danger to us, let us be happy.
–Don't call us "lazy," "slackers," or anything else that is used to blame us as a first resort for bad behavior or academic problems.
Behavioral problems and academic issues like bad grades are usually a symptom of something else. Help us solve the problem causing this; don't accuse us of something without knowing the facts.
–Trust us and believe what we say.
Whether it's a minor argument or misunderstanding, or something very serious, listen to all sides of the story, including ours. Don't rely solely on other people's opinions about us.
–Dedicate the necessary time to us.
We need our parents to be there for us, to guide us, to listen to us, but also to be present and open to talking in a respectful and safe way where we can trust and open up without being judged, belittled, or challenged.
