#minority

When I was growing up my peers told me that having sex was amazing, they tried to express how attraction felt "It's like wanting to eat someone with your whole body;" I never felt that, people told me I just had to wait, I'm still waiting.

As an adult I entertained the idea of having a companion, someone to share my life with and I was told it made absolutely no sense, "A relationship is like you live with your best friend but you also have sex, if you don't have sex there is no sense."

I internalized it, it grew on me and eventually, I stopped trying to make sense to all and made my peace for a loner life.

I met someone, he was my best friend, I didn't want to eat him with my body, but I wanted ti carve myself inside him. I was clear and told him that I understood very little about cues and intentions, he said we were best friends, doing things best friends did...we were not, it took me a while to understand and a lot of heartache to accept I had been taken advantage of for years. That's when I realized with my therapist I am also autistic.

I was sent to this earth without a user's manual, without compass and without decoder.

I was put here to be autistic, asexual and aromantic. And once I found a reason why, when I found connection to the LGBTQ+ community, I was told I was wrong, I should get checked, maybe it's a hormone imbalance...

That was the first time that I actually felt I wasn't human (a term actually used upon me through time,) so I gave up, I gave up on trying to find familiarity, comfort, understanding.

This year is the first time that I feel myself valid, there are books and fanfiction with characters that are aro or ace or both, Tumblr is trending my labels, I see aroace butterflies, aroace moons, aroace dragons. There are others like me out there, but even better, there are others out there not like me, that still see we exist!

Yesterday I read a line that said "You should not be expected to come with a warning for people to love you" I cried cathartically for a good while.

Is this post about woe is me? No, is this about me wanting people to validate me? Strangely no.

“The only dangerous minority is the rich.”

Drinking animal blood to show they're 'vegan' never mind they have to choke it down. Never mind how sluggish it makes their brain. Doesn't matter! It's not like they're one of those vampires haha they aren't hurting anyone. Look, they won't transform into a bat either, even if it makes their skin itch, gravity pressing in as everything in them wants to fly. But transforming into a bat isn't natural, and this was the body they died in, so it's all they're ever meant to be. But they're not an animal, not like those vampires. And! And! They don't even flinch when called an it, that's fine really, just a slip up, you see me as a person, right? Right? Of course you do, they're trying so hard to act like one. Oh? Acting means they're a fake liar predator trying to trick innocent humans? What- no, no that's not right, because they aren't like those vampires at all. They've filed down their fangs so they aren't a stereotype. They've chugged coffee after coffee to force themselves to abandon nocternality. They're nearly a person, right?

Travellers are an ethnic minority in Ireland. They've been compared to the Roma, but they're entirely separate groups. Many travellers live in vans and are constantly mobile, while others are "settled" travellers and live in one place.

Growing up, anon had heard of travellers in only negative ways. There'd be certain areas that were considered "bad" because there'd be majority travellers living there, or people would avoid shops because travellers were known to work/hang out around there.

It seemed strange to anon that some people, even those within Ireland, hadn't heard of the group, and they want to know if the wider world had any knowledge of them.

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A majority of the fandom are bylers which take up a majority of social media’s they have ao3, tumblr, tiktok, wattpad and Pinterest while all we have is Reddit (and Netflix..)

So many of these bylers spend so much time hating on us and our ship. they accuse us of homophobia they claim we all lack media literacy and they make this fandom an unsafe place for any non byler shipper.

We are casually being oppressed for our ship is Milevens are actively discriminated against by Bylers who claim moral superiority for their ship being a gay one despite Mileven being the more anti conformist one.

It’s socially acceptable for us to continuously be put down and by our oppressors the byler shippers because of their jealousy of us.

We are oppressed in this fandom. the stranger things community is unwelcoming and discriminatory towards anyone who doesnt ship byler.

What type of space is this? why are we going against the shows themes of breaking the cycle of oppression just to clown on an entire community of people just for who they ship Mike is?

Mileven oppression is real and we are an entire minority.