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Swimming and playing around your pool are great forms of physical activity that help you burn calories. The number of calories you burn while engaging in pool activities varies based on body weight and activity intensity, but here’s an estimate of how many calories are burned in a 30 minute period* (Source: Harvard Health Publishing).

Activity                       #  calories burned

Water Volleyball            Up to 150

Water aerobics              Up to 180

Swimming laps              Up to 450

Water Polo                    Up to 450

Water “frisbee toss”      Up to 150

Water play: “Marco Polo”, etc.      Up to 300

Walking/treading water in pool     Up to 250                                    

A Beginner’s Guide to explain Digital parenting ” Mom, Siri says I’m smarter than you.” What is Siri’s real name? and I want ChatGPT to help me with my homework. I laughed, but my heart stopped for a second. At that point, I realized how much technology had become a part of my child’s life. As these kids get older, we’ll hear more about social media, like Facebook, Instagram, and more. Most of…

Being a mother of a six-year-old, I have come to realize a few bitter parenting truths that most people might not agree with.

Streaming platforms are nothing compared to cable TV. The rush of waiting for the exact moment your favorite show comes on is incomparable to pressing play on demand. Despite the generational comparison, learning your show's schedule and trying to finish everything you need to do just so you can watch teaches determination and patience.

From becoming an extension of parenthood, the devices inevitably will take over the game. Back in 2017, until just a few hours ago, I would give my daughter screentime so I could work in peace. I would reassure myself, "At least they're not making a mess." When my daughter chose to get spanked (which I did not do), I realized that the iPad I got her for the holidays had completely taken over her. Despite the nuances of children's messes, it is their nature to make some. Our job is to equip them with the skills to clean it on their own.

I was starting to fail as a parent until I wasn't. There was a podcast episode I was listening to a few months back where an expert said "The best type of parenting is one that involves a parent." While the context might have been different (as they were talking about different types of parenting), I agree. If I could be there, physically, mentally, or emotionally - even just one of those - that's already a step towards being the best parent I could be.

To my daughter,

I am sorry for being by your side, but not.

I am sorry for choosing to be a provider but neglecting my responsibilities as a mom.

I am sorry for bringing you to your classes, but also bringing my laptop with me so I could work while waiting.

I am sorry for listening to you while keeping my eyes peeled on my screen.

So, yeah... Let's just say I am totally new at sharing my actual words with social media. Do I have any idea of what I am doing? Absolutely not. Not even a clue.

Let's dive into some personal shit. I wanted to start a blog to feel like I had something of just my own. Something outside of my identity as a wife, mother and friend. A safe place for my thoughts, if you will.

What I really hope is that this blog helps you and I both find ourselves a little sanctuary where we can be real about the bullshit motherhood throws at us daily, difficulties of being a wife and just being a weird ass millennial trying to navigate through the childhood trauma and learning how to smile through it all.

We laugh, we cry, we make time fly...

We are best friends, my mom and I.