Respect the Rules #F4TF

Rules are pretty key to our relationship, although even without that I am a person who likes to have rules to follow. I suppose that is why a D/s marriage works so well for me as having rules and structure makes me feel safe. It makes sense of things and makes me feel as though I have a focus and can get things done. Without this I can feel a bit all over the place and it puts my stress levels…

Watching #SinfulSunday

“The viewer watching the view is also being watched by the view! So every viewer is also a view and every view, a viewer!”

― Mehmet Murat ildan

It’s not natural

I have had recent conversations with submissives who have said that their partners are not naturally Dominant. I find this a really interesting thought. When I first suggested D/s to HisLordship I felt it would work well because it fell in with the way that we were naturally. I saw him as the more Dominant partner and myself as the more submissive. These were only some of our qualities though and…

"We loved with a love that was more than love." #WickedWednesday

I struggle to explain how I feel about our relationship – about what we have. It is love for sure but also it is also ‘more’ than love and sometimes that overwhelms me. It is not something that I ever thought I would get and I think that is part of my confusion. If you had told me that this sort of relationship existed I would have thought it unlikely. If you had told me that I would be…

I don’t want to be writing this post but then again, I don’t want to be feeling like I do. Actually I feel okay now but before I didn’t. Now I am here. Matter of fact. Being rational. And the thing about writing about what happens is that you don’t always want to tell the story, you don’t always want people to know what happens, but it is part of the full picture and therefore it is just as much…

Knock Knock #F4TFriday

In a house full of teenagers, being interrupted in full flow is as common as having to change our plans last minute and having to put off what we want in order to prioritise others. It happens frequently and these days we are resigned to having to work around it. Not only are we masters at the art of the silent orgasm, we are also creators of opportunities where there seem to be none, experts in…

Red encourages action and confidence and provides a sense of protection from fears and anxiety.

Red represents beauty in many languages and cultures.

Red amulets are worn in many cultures to prolong life.

Red is the highest arc of the rainbow and is the first colour you lose sight of at twilight.

The longest wavelength of light is red.

Red is the colour of extremes. It is the colour of passionate love, seduction, violence, danger, anger, and adventure.

Our prehistoric ancestors saw red as the colour of fire and blood – energy and primal life forces – and most of red’s symbolism today arises from its powerful associations in the past.

Red is a magical and religious colour. It symbolised super-human heroism to the Greeks and is the colour of the Christian crucifixion.

Red was almost as rare and as expensive as purple in ancient days, a fact that may explain its magic and power.